My girlfriend wants a break after 17 months? cheating? bipolar?

Question

Where should i begin Im 19 and my gf is 17 on my birthday in sept my girlfriend got in a fight with me an said i didnt deserve this and i deserve better and all that and said we should break up. a couple days later everything was fine and as months past up till now she had givin me alot of mixed messages and confusion. she would tell me she wants space but we can talk. i would give it to her and she still wasnt to happy. she said she needed to make herself happy before she can make me happy. well we would fight off and on sometimes about this situation and sometimes about dumb little things up until last friday everything was seemingly fine.. i gave her space for a couple weeks and she seemed fine and lovey and pretty normal well she wasnt. she saw me last friday and we still were doing the "i want space issue" so this was the first time i saw her in a week i go to her house and we do nothing. the next day we fight she says she does not want to be commited anymore and does not love me

and she wanted to have a break after that happened so we did, she said she didnt feel the spark anymore or something. I don't know what to do because i love her so much its impossible to just leave. we have not talked for about 3 days except she sent me a couple text messages saying "why cant we have a break and talk at the same time i feel to bad not talking to you " and another saying "goodnight" later that night ..does this mean she is missing me? I think she is really confused because she is so young and actually is in love with me and is scared to realize how much commitment she is getting too..

ok well i've read alot of your guys answers and i want to mention she does hang out with her friends but not that much i let her do whatever she wants, she did tell me she felt tied down and she did say she didnt want to have to worry about me as well. she also said she loves me but she is not sure if she is 'in love' with me anymore i dont know..

i really dont think she has cheated at all, she has no guy friends at all and i would check her phone and myspace and no evidence of her doing anything wrong. and during the week she has school and work and isn't home until 7 at night anyway.. she was with me almost everyday as well and would always tell me where she was and she usually hangs out with her mom not her friends as much. she said she doesnt have the heart to ever do that to me and swore upon it... i'll confront her about all of my feelings soon i just dont know how long to wait with the break going on, i know you all say leave her but its alot harder then that for me

Answer 1

Get a Life, and Move on

Answer 2

Let her go. You should be with someone u never have to fight with and u should always connect and get along. As much as u love her i think u know u should let her go cuz it doesn't sound like a good relationship. She said she deserved better and basically said she wasn't happy so if u can't make her happy there's something wrong. If ur doing wut she wants and giving her space and she still isn't happy THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG. It's not a good thing. The right person for anyone is someone you can get along with all the time and not worry at all about arguing and even needing space. You can find someone else like that. Sry but that's not entirely just an opinion. Just think about what's going on and you'll understand and no matter how hard it is you have to do what will make you happier and more comfortable. Good luck with her and if it can work out that's great but it doesn't sound good.

Answer 3

She is Bipolar. You want confirmation. You wont get it. Nothing will be fine. When she never is completely sure that it is, and she cannot let it go, so that it could be. You will have to maintain stenght in youself as a desirable person for the love to be something strong and good for her to need. . And maintain strenght throuht the truth. And dont ask her if she is ok. Just Make everything Bitchin. Agree with her no matter what. SHe is gonna be a lot of work. And she will wear on the heart. But if you love her, you will take her pain. Be strong, it feels good. Tons of work. It can be the best, mmmm crazy love. Just don tbe shocked at the change of directions, or worry about getting what you want at all times

Answer 4

I think you should have a girlsnight out or somthing. Speak to her about some of the probloms she possibly haveing and a few methods that you may support her, at this point it seems she might relatively use a just right friend that is thier for her. Seems she has been via a whole lot, and doesnt want stress on her so have a cozy convo together with her and that doesnt aid, try to get her to go and get some aid, but dont force her, ? However I wish you the exceptional of success :)

Answer 5

exactly, she dosent love you... she dosent want to be tied down with anyone. Dosent mean shes cheating or bipolar. She just dosent feel it anymore, shes not happy anymore. Jusst end it, so you dont have to go thru all the bs, shes 17, your 19, live a little, if its not there, dont force it, plenty of time to find the right person.. its that simple. But shes not happy you can tell, your probably not happy, so why be in a relationship thats confusioning and not happy.

Answer 6

First of all let me say i'm sorry. You don't deserve this and she sounds like she has no clue what she wants except for...._ _ _. I hate to be the one to tell you but if you are doing things, which is assumed youve been together for awhile...your being used. I would break it off before you go any further with this girl or worse... she hurts you again and again.. you get it

All the good luck in the world. Let me know how it goes.

Answer 7

Well if you really love her then just give her her space and break up. If she loves you back and the both of you were destined to be together then it'll happen. Just give her time to miss you, and she will if she still has those same feelings for you as you do for her. I know it sounds a little unrealistic, but it might just work.
Good Luck

Answer 8

It doent sound like shes cheeting. It sounds to me like she does not want to be straped down at such a young age. Do you give her freedom when you are together? Does she go out with friends her age and hang out? When she says she wants space it means that she wants to go out and have fun and not be worried about talking to a guy and having you find out! She wants her space, but she wants you to be there for her when shes lonley! Chicks are wierd LOL take it from me. Bipolar could be part of it, but if she really wanted to be with you than she wouldnt let mood swings stop her. She wants freedom and wants to get out more and see what the world has to offer her. Good luck to you Hope I helped!

Answer 9

first of all, she still loves you but maybe she doesn't like you anymore. i used to feel the same way about my boyfriend b/c we were around each other so much we didn't get our own personal time away from each other too often. maybe she felt that after ya'll had ya'lls time apart she realized that she just didn't want to be with you anymore b/c she liked the single life better. maybe you all should just try being friends for now with no benefits:)

Answer 10

I hope this doesn't come off as mean, just honest. Her saying she wants a break means "I want to see what else is out there" Her still being nice to you means "I don't want to fight over this". Her texting you means "I like the attention" Her saying you don't deserve this and you deserve better means "I care about you, but I'm about to break your heart" This is just my interpretation. From a woman's perspective.

Answer 11

She is 17, you really dont know who you are at the age... continue being you and making you an amazing person...give her her space, i am sure she doesnt mean that she doesnt love you. Just concentrate on you and remember that things will always get better somehow.