What do you think? If a person cheerfully and willingly does something to help another and finds some kind of personal satisfaction in it are they more caring than a person who begrudgingly performs an action in behalf of another? Does sacrificing time and/or resources indicate a greater level of caring than just offering time, kindness and service?
There is a debate raging in our household regarding this topic. Neutral parties' opinions are greatly appreciated.
2006-11-22 05:33:04 · 9 answers · asked by oldyogi 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My opinion is if you are asked to do something that you really don't want to do but you do it anyway with a good attitude, then your self-confidence will blossom along with self-worth and others will see it and know that you care. If you do something strictly out of duty and you're 'heart' is not really in it, then chances are, you'll do a crappy job which will aggravate the person who asked you to do it in the first place, and the end result will be dissatisfaction with yourself. God bless!
2006-11-22 05:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of hard to give a yes or no answer because you asked several levels of the question.
My answer to the first part is yes, they are a more caring individual. A person who does the Thing but does it begrudgingly takes away from the deed by allowing others to know that they feel personally Used by the act, hence having the 'its all about me' attitiude. The person who doesn't want to do the Thing but does it anyway without the other person knowing that they don't want to --- The is caring. Caring enough not put themselves in the center.
2006-11-22 13:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brian B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I beleive that there is no such thing as a selfless act. I also beleive that both of the described situations are relatively the same....
A person who willing does so does it for the personal satisfaction it gives them to help. Someone who does so begrudgingly, does so for some other reason - whether it be to impress others, to pay for a crime (public service, etc), or to gain fovor in some other light - regardless, in each example, it is always performed for the person doing the performance....
2006-11-22 13:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think someone who cheerfully and willfully helps others is FAR more caring than someone who does something because they have to. And generally, the person being cared for can tell the difference. "Sacrificing" is a pretty strong word to use, and I'd guess that anyone who says they are "sacrificing" time and/or resources feels it's much more of a burden than someone offering time, kindness and service. "Sacrificing" focuses on the giver, not the receiver.
Blessed be!
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2006-11-22 13:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by wyvern1313 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doing something for someone else is always caring...doing it begrudgingly usually insinuates that they feel obligated, not that they care enough to want to do it for that person.
2006-11-22 13:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the only difference would be that the grudgingly helpful person isn't doing it with a loving heart, which would probably be seen as less than generous.
2006-11-22 14:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the people who do something willingly and are happy about it are more caring because they do it because they want to not because they have to.
2006-11-22 13:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ashly D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forget where I read this, but "is it not better to try being evil and choose to be good because it makes you feel better than to be good all the time because you are obligated and feel you have no other choice?"
2006-11-22 13:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the duty of every Christian to care. The duty of caring cannot be exercised until pride is exorcised.
2006-11-22 13:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋