It seens you start a relationship and everything seems great and then before you know it the guy that you are with is abusive. What do you look for in the beginning to avoid this?
2006-11-22 05:31:46 · 4 answers · asked by want2knowsoon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes NASCAR
He has kissin' cousins
He has two or three first names
2006-11-22 05:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who wants to control where you go and what you do. A guy who asks too many questions about your whereabouts and who you spend time with. A guy who sounds paranoid and not trusting you to make your own decisions. If they lose their temper easily that's another sign. They also tend to be kind of bipolar to where they have really severe mood swings where one minute they are sweet as pie and the next you are dog poop on the bottom of their shoe. They say things to put you down that are negative. But, be careful since you need to see a pattern over time to really address it and say - this guy is nutso. Asking friends, past girlfriends and such is another way to find out. I once dated a guy where his previous girlfriends all said that he hurt them. Fortunately - he never hurt me but the relationship didn't last more than 3 months anyway so he didn't progress to that.
2006-11-22 13:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy, possessiveness, controlling. The way he might speak to you when upset. They way he speaks to his mother. Does he act like a jerk in front of his friends. Was he abused as a child. I'm not saying that if he has some of these it means he will but they are things to consider.
2006-11-22 13:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it seems like he's trying to separate you from your family and friends and isolate you so that he's your only support system. Also, look at the way he treats others in his life. Be suspicious of any controlling behavior.
2006-11-22 13:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by vlalto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋