To ugly people with high self-esteem?

Question

I'm ugly and have no self-esteem,I tried a alot to work on it but it's useless,whenever I go out and see how people look at me or that no one wants to be with me just destroy everything I worked on.
I'm really depressed these days,I just lay on bed and listen to music,I'm studying dentistry and this is really affecting my study and I can't help it cuz I'm not in the mood to study,I have no motivation no dreams nothing.

plz tell me what should I do ????


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Answer 1

apparently you are male, tell yourself that you have more worthy things such as good humor, knowledge, ... by them people can benefit from them. in fact beauty is not that important. you may be weak in attracting strange people but people who know you would like you because of your personality. beauty is important in the beginning but its importance will fade away by time and other aspect of you will dominate in relationship.

Answer 2

If people don't want to be with you, it could be because of your attitude. The way you work on self esteem is to give your attention to others. Find volunteer projects to help other people.

Did you know that the Bible says that Jesus was not at all handsome to look at ? " He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him." (Isaiah 53:2) He has many followers and people who love Him because He loves us first.

Here is a list of not so beautiful people who have made a difference in the world: Abraham Lincoln - president, Mother Teressa- humanitarian, Danny De Vito - movie actor, Randy Johnson - baseball star, Johnny Cash - recording artist.

Be sure that your body, teeth, and your clothes are clean and that you are well groomed. A person who is dirty or smells badly is not desirable to be around.

God bless you. Be positive and think on the cares of others and you will be fine.

Answer 3

In your question you said that you go out, and people look at you BECAUSE you are ugly, and that you know that this is why they don't want to be with you. This is entirely something you are telling yourself inside your head, its not real. This is self-defeating talk that you have going inside of you. You need to challenge these thoughts when they happen. Where's your proof that this is what they are thinking? You have no way of knowing this. Change your negative thinking, and you will feel better.

Ugly people with high self esteem don't have these negative self-dialogs in their heads. They see someone looking at them, and assume good or neutral things like "They must like my hair" or even "Do I have something in my teeth", but NOT "they must be thinking i'm ugly". This is the difference, and YOU are in charge of what thoughts you say to yourself. Control them, don't let them control you.

Answer 4

No one on earth is ugly. It's what's inside that makes a person. And if you get stared at in public in the wrong way or looked at funny, do what I do, I look back at them in the same way, and I'm not afraid to ask them: What are you staring at?

Answer 5

My dear, please don't let your looks get you down. Many people I know who aren't conventionally good looking are happy people because they realise that people like them for who they are and their looks cease to matter.

Talk to your friends. Find out what they like about you. Don't just lock yourself in your room - go out and mingle. Think of all the things that you're good at and aspects of your personality that are unique and good, and you'll realise that there's no reason to hate youself.

I know people with low self-esteem (I'm dating one). If someone tells you they like you or praises you, don't you DARE doubt them. Hold on to what they're telling you and know that it's true. If you hold on to every positive thought that people send your way, you're on your way to a healthier self-image.