He calls it a right of passage? For all you moms out there whats your opinion about this, and would you support? What should I do?
2006-11-22 05:06:12 · 38 answers · asked by ri00 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think it is right. I think parents should always take the high ground with their children regardless of the age. My kids are grown and I would never take then to a bar or strip club.
2006-11-22 05:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by » mickdotcom « 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Instinctively I thought "Who cares?", but upon consideration, I think that, even if viewed as a rite of passage, it's a rite that should be left to an older brother, cousin, or friend. I know some families are very open about this stuff, but I agree that the father should be a role model. If your son is going to go to a strip club, he'll go, and he has the right, he's 18. I personally wouldn't have wanted to go to a club with my mother when I turned 18, too creepy. And as long as he's still coming home at night, I wouldn't worry about your husband.
2006-11-22 05:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say no! Your husband should be a good role model for your son. Taking him to a strip club could cause him to devalue women. It also says something to him of how your husband views women. It could also alter his opinion of you. I'm not saying it will, but you never know.
There are other things your husband and son could do together if your husband is wanting to spend some "guy time" or bonding time, such as going to a baseball game or something.
The strip club is a bad idea, and, as a woman and his wife, I don't know why you're even considering this as an option for your son's birthday.
2006-11-22 05:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by artsycasey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either way, your son is going to a strip club when he turns 18... dad or not. Would you rather his first time there be with his friends, blitzed out of his mind, making crude comments to the girls? Or would you rather it be awkward moment with his dad? I'd go for the awkward moment with dad.
Here's the deal: he's your little boy. To you, he is always going to be that toothless six year old that loved you so much and told you that every chance he could get. He hated girl cooties and you were his number one gal. You do not want your husband to ruin that little childhood fantasy, right?
Here's the deal about that: it's already ruined. From the first wet dream he had, to the girls he's been dating in high school.... and the way kids are now.... he's seen some titties. He's probably not a virgin either, mom. AND if he is, you are a great mom for teaching him some morals (or teaching him to not tell you everything).... anyhow, if he respects girls, you won't have a thing to worry about. He will look and enjoy and have some material for later. He's not going to go berzerk with dad around.... unless he is Al Bundy.
I think it's all right. He's going to go no matter what. Just let him and dad have some boy time together.
Also, as long as you are confy in your relationship, what's the big deal? I've been to a strip club with my husband and he's been solo with friends. He is an honest, kind, loving man and would never cheat on me. I trust him. I check guys out all the time. It's healthy for men to want to look at other women. Just like it's healthy for me to check guys out. I know who my man's going to be with at the end of the day.... and it ain't with a stipper named Summer! It's with his wife, Summer!
Good luck!
2006-11-22 05:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definetly think this is wrong. I dont want my husband going to strip clubs why would I want him to take our son there. Its not a good habit to get your son into either. Its not a right of passage. Changes are your sons already seen a naked girl anyway!
2006-11-22 05:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea to take an 18 years old to a strip club. This is also your husband and young son, I would put my foot down and say no. This should be something your son does with his buddies not his dad.
2006-11-22 05:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not require only moms to answer your question. I think your husband was silly to associate a nude club with maturity. Where will he take your 18year old daughter for her rite of passage party? It is absolutely unimaginative of your husband to throw back to the dark ages when such male chauvinistic attitudes were indulged in by men. I wish you can have a talk with husband on better ways to make your son become a true man ,not one that takes women to be toys. Your son was being drilled to become a voyeur by your naive husband.
2016-03-29 05:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is going to treat women like he sees them skanks and hoes that sell their body. Is this how you wanted to have your little baby boy from the start? NO, it's not! It's totally wrong and your husband should respect that. Men that go to strip clubs need to have woman crawling all over them it's a man empowerment thing, having control. I would never let my son go to one when he is living my house and I wouldn't want him to go to one ever! Your son needs to think about college, you husband should take him to college places, and then your son might like somebody there. I know it's so wrong. I wouldn't want my children there no matter what the age is. Your son might enjoy having the idea of going there, but the truth is at the strip club the woman are not models, they are ugly, well most of them are, and it took a lot of money to look like she does, it's fictitious, I would slap my husband for thinking of it
2006-11-22 10:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would never want to go to a strip club with my mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He may not want to go with his dad either. If this is to be a surprise then I say no way. That will only embarrass your son. If your son is more than up to the offer, then let them go. Do you normally let your husband go? If so, then your son already sees it as okay, and he will end up going anyway. If your husband doesnt go, then its not a good idea to let them explore this together. My husband jokes about doing that when our sons turn 18, but it will never happen!
2006-11-22 05:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an adult and free to go on his own, it would be kind of weird to be with your dad though. I think I'll take my son out to Hooters for a beer . Strip clubs are appearing all over my area, the 18-20yr old crowd of men are huge costumers so much so some clubs forgo liquor licenses to cater to them and have total nude dancers. You'd be surprised how many high school/college women work at these clubs dancing to make more money then they'd ever see at Mc Donalds's. There are three senior women from my sons high school who everyone knows are dancers and have their own place together as well as nice cars. 18 yr old women are highly sought after by the clubs, be glad you have a son your daughter could be working there.
2006-11-22 05:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋