I have dating this guy for 6 months and he is a great guy. But he is out of work right now for an injury from July. He makes excuses for why he isn't back at work or why he isn't looking for work. I pay for everything because he can't. He doesn't drive so I have to drive 40 minutes to his house and he doesn't want to learn to drive. He is 30 yrs old and lives at home still. His mom has done everything for him, so he doesn't know how to do things himself. I caught her putting sunscreen on him one time. At times he can be immature and annoys me. I am currently a senior in college graduating in december and he is jealous that my school work comes first above anything else. He claims that he does everything and I do nothing, yet I drive him everywhere, buy dinner and other things for him. I feel right now I will be taking care of him for the rest of our lives together and he won't take care of me, because I was taught the man takes care for the woman. I need advise please!
2006-11-22 04:56:38 · 12 answers · asked by Kimberly M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you found yourself a boy and not a man! The best way to be treated like a girlfriend is to find a new boyfriend....
2006-11-22 04:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kimberly,
You already know the answer to your own question. Your man is 30 years old and lives at home with his momma! When he leaves home to be with another woman, it will be another momma.
If he's been out of work that long, he should be drawing some kind of disability or unemployment by now. Why are you paying for everything? He doesn't have any bills. Mom pays them.
You're a bright young woman. Don't do do something stupid like stay with a no-count man who doesn't even meet your bare minimum standards.
Dump his a-s-s!
Finish school. Move far away. Find you a guy who measures up.
A real man's opinion.
2006-11-22 05:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but your boyfriend sounds like a loser. He is 30 years old, still lives at home, is out of work, doesn't drive, can't see why your homework is very important, and has the gall to say that he does everything and you do nothing! I'm sorry, but you deserve way better. A relationship takes effort on both parts, and you are the only one contributing to the relationship- in fact you are acting like a second mother to him. Dump this guy- you will be better off. He is just a mooch and needs to grow up- you need a man. Congratulations on your pending graduation. I wish you the best of luck in life and hope that you will find someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.
2006-11-22 05:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok - my advice to you would be to read what your just wrote. This guy has no ambition and doesn't have to work. And really why should he? You dont make him work for anything. You pick him up, pay for everything, etc. So, what motivation would he have to learn to drive and get a job? Sounds like you need to kick him to the curb and let his mother tend to his needs.
2006-11-22 05:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this guy is a "free loader". If you think things are bad now, you marry this loser and you will see your life go down the drain. Let him go because I know you deserve better than this. Just a note on your next boyfriend get someone who is equally like you, you know someone who has a college education.
2006-11-22 05:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the attraction? Why are you with him? There must be something that keeps you connected, because everything you mention makes this guy look terrible. Based on the above, this guy is a loser without a future.
2006-11-22 05:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG you can do so much better. Don't confuse feeling sorry for someone with feelings of love. Let him go and move on! You're a smart girl and you'll find someone much better.
2006-11-22 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by LM S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GOSH UR IN A LOOSE LOOSE SITUATION WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE HIS MOM IS DOING 4 HIM 4 ALL U KNOW SHE IS PROBABLY GIVING HIM A LAP DANCE RIGHT NOW!!!!
2006-11-22 05:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him and tell him to go back to his mommy.
2006-11-22 05:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by dbelyew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO KIMBERLY-wake up-even great-i mean GREAT sex isn't worth that.
DUMP his azz NOW
2006-11-22 05:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋