My ex passed away last month. We have a 5 yr old son. Since he died his mother and I have not been getting along to the point where I have cut off contact with her for the time being. She says really horrible things to me and about me. With the holidays I know she'll want to see my son but given her attitude I'm hesitant about leaving him with her. I know he misses his grandparents but I don't trust them. He's already lost his father, I don't want him to suffer anymore than he has to. What do I do if I can't get along with them and don't trust them to return him if I let him go to their house? She got a lawyer and tried to keep me from getting her son's social security. They're giving it to me anyway but her lawyer told her she can get it if she has custody of my son. Now I'm afraid to even let him out of my sight. What do I do?
2006-11-22 04:33:59 · 6 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You shouldn't have to worry about them taking your son away from you if there is not plausible reason or evidence of you being an unfit parent. Use this time to focus on spending time with your son. You and he are your "family". Focus on your family and leave the pettiness and juvenile behavior to your in-laws. It really upsets me when people think that it is so cut and dry when they say I am taking custody of your child. It's not that simple. That is how ignorant those people are. Be strong and go with God.
2006-11-22 04:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be torn on this. But if my son asked to see Grandma, I would let him, but only with supervised visitation. Did your ex have a sibling or a cousin you could trust? If not, I would meet her in a neutral place where she can hang out with her grandson and you can be around (that way she has a hard time saying bad things about you in front of your son). There are play places at the mall, parks (depending on where you live and the weather), or even a mutual relative's or family friend's house...good luck!
2006-11-22 12:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll always have precedence in court to have custody of your child. unless you're unable to provide him the basics. just my opinion here, i think you should just send them a card wishing them well during the holidays. just to let them know that you're thinking about their well being. maybe they'll realize that you are a caring person
2006-11-22 12:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by phantasmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always supervise him during visits and take her and your son to the movies she can see her grandchild,he can see a movie (and his gran) and you won't have to worry about her saying words to you because practically everyone knows.........no talking during movies! or you could take her and your son to a park, a resturant,......etc. because people do not want here yall' fighting and if she has ettiquite, she won't try to fight with you! and unless you are a unfit parent they won't try to takje him away from you! but if you have drugs,misdeamenars......i.e against you they may consider!and spend time with your family.....and not your aparenty ignorant ex-mother-in-law. just be strong and don't worry!
2006-11-22 12:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://fixmylegalproblem.com/overture/?OVRAW=free%20legal%20advice&OVKEY=free%20legal%20advice&OVMTC=standard go to this site and see if they can help you!and maybe you should see a lawyer and ask him to write an agreement up for you and have the grandparents sign it!just a thought.
2006-11-22 12:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by kevin b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sue. sue . sue and sue some more. get restrictions on them like they cant come 50 yds to your son and stuff like that. then if they take him there violating court order so they will go to jail.
2006-11-22 12:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋