Okay, my friend walked in on her BF of almost 8 years at another apartment. Now the sad thing is that they have a small daughter together. Now her BF says that he does not love her and wants to be with the other girl, says that he will help with their child however he hasn't help even when he is with her. I think she needs to take him to court for Child Support and find someone that will love hre back... Are there any other good ideas out there for her?
2006-11-22 04:06:39 · 11 answers · asked by Hotbox25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your question is hard to understand. but go for child support and get your moeny.
2006-11-22 04:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a loser. She can turn him into a winner by pointing out that he owes child support. She can go to court and get this through the attorney general of her state. He owes at least that much to his child, not your friend. It won't be much money because he doesn't sound like much of a man, but anything at all will help. Tell her, too, to take her time on the next one and be certain that he is a gentleman in every respect of the word. I'm sorry your friend and her child are going through this.
Oh, there is a down side to formal child support: He gets visitation rights. She might not want him in her life in the future. If so, she should not take him to court for child support, but try to make it on her own. She really should have a talk with an attorney to get all the ins and outs of the situation. It is kinda complicated and she needs to understand it from every side. It will be important until her child turns 18. Good luck!!
2006-11-22 04:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy sounds like a real jerk! I've been a single mother for almost 17 years, and although I believe that it is ideal for a child to be raised by 2 parents, I also know that if the parents have a bad relationship that it's actually more harmful than good for the child, and that it is possible to so a good job raising your kid alone. If he wants to be a part of his childs life, she shouldn't stop him...I hate it when parents do that to their kids! She should definitely get him to pay child support whether he is active in his daughter's life or not. As far as you go, just be a good friend, and support her...be there for her when she needs help or just someone to talk to. You sound like a great friend!
2006-11-22 04:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by spirittamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this father has made no effort to repent for his ways, the best suggestion I can offer is for your friend to move on. Being strong as much as possible for her daughter and make the most of the time she has with her right now is the best. As for support, she needs to file with the courts for child and potentially spousal as well. An 8 year relationship in some courts can be considered long-term common law. Prayers for a Happy Thanksgiving through it all =)
2006-11-22 04:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs child support from him and since he hasnt helped while they had been together, shes probably gonna have to have his wages garnished. If need be, she can seek financial aid through the state for cash and/or food stamps.
As far as her finding someone else, dont push for that. Tell her she can be ok just being by herself for a while until she gets herself together emotionally and financially.
2006-11-22 04:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that's left for her is financial support for the child. It's hard when there are kids involved but that doesn't mean she has to stick around and get treated like dirt. Take him to court, drain him dry, and move on.
2006-11-22 04:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she should do her best to be strong and mature for her daughter. It is hard and he doesn't deserve her to be cooperative, but it's all about the kid now. Overlook the bitter feelings and look at the big picture. Accept that fact that he has moved on b/c it is his loss anyhow. Don't worry about another boyfriend, worry about that beautiful baby girl is what I would say to my friend...
2006-11-22 04:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Camille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she should try to get child support. Unless she is mad of money. Or if it was an abusive relationship. There are free legal services out there for people in her situation.
2006-11-22 04:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Little Lioness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly have 3 infants with disabilities. there is not any way i could enable an corporation to torture my infants. There are different strategies. the college and the mothers and dads are the extremely handicapped subsequently. between the lecturers and the mothers and dads, infants with disabilities might nicely be helped and taught to act wisely.
2016-11-26 01:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by chanelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to do everything possible to make the child happy, make sure that the kid feels safe, loved and cared for.
2006-11-22 04:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by Михайловна 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋