Anyone have any tips on being just friends with someone who broke up with you, but you still feel something?
2006-11-22 03:56:20 · 11 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they broke up with you, and you still have feelings for them than if you try to be "friends" with them you are only lying to your self. It is too soon. It is like breaking your leg on Monday and then trying to run a race on Tuesday, you are only going to make the injury worst.
Right now you are still in a place of "I need him in my life." You need to get way past that point before it healthy to have him in your life.
The hardest thing is you are right now blinded by the pain of the break up. It is normal to want to hold on, but just try to look past the pain, try and remember you are a wonderful person and their are a lot of guys who do like you and would want to go out with you. Try to remember that what you do now you will have to live with for the rest of your life, so don't do something pathetic like try to hold on to a relationship that is gone.
Good Luck
2006-11-22 04:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From lovers to friends...both have a desitination of relationship... but its like flying in First Class and then downgrading to Coach.
This is tough mainly on getting over the hurt that comes along with a breakup.
It can be done...but it takes a person with a forgiving nature...and obviously really loves the person enough that having that person in their life as a friend is better than not having them at all.
I would only caution against doing it if keeping them as a friend, is a way to try to win back their heart...just a precaution to protect yourself from getting further hurt if it doesnt work out.
I have been able to maintain friendships with most of my former girlfriends over the years...but it usually takes some time away, after the breakup to find that comfort zone. Then the NEW relationships they develop too...often getting jealous because of the prior relationship. But if everyone acts adult...everything can work out.
I hope the situation works out for your happiness.
2006-11-22 12:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't
won't work
or should I say usually does not work
one of my friends got a divorce and he has two kids, she got remarried and now the guys stops by the garage to get his oil changed and my friend kisses his ex on the cheek and gives her a hug and tells her that his kids come first, and he makes sure the tow girls have everything they need, he shakes the guys hand and says bye....but I made the guy realize that all this niceness could disappear instantly if he hurts my friends girls or ex wife, and the new husband has a good understanding ..the ex wife does not know we have this understanding between me and my friend and the new husband...and she will never know it..
so things are nice, but they can not really be friends like what your asking for..can't happen
to much in the past, to much in the way,
friends as you would be nice if you passed in the streets or at the mall, but real friends never happen
sorry
good luck
smile
2006-11-22 16:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too friendly too soon. Just sort of do a group activity with your friends, some of his friends, and him. Make sure you are still nice and don't let a joke or anything go too far because then it will look like you want to hurt or humiliate him. Over time, you will still stay friends.
2006-11-22 12:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is not what you are wanting to hear...but everything changes...people evolve...and most times there is no going back...but I would say that the choice and steps necessary would have to be made and taken by him. I hope this helps, I have read alot of your questions, and its obvious you are hurting. Trust me, it will get better. Good luck.
2006-11-22 12:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Turc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doenst work, take it from me. I was with this girl for over 3 years and she broke up with me by telling me she fell out of love with me and she didnt know why, and she wanted to be friends with me. It didnt work. It killed me to see her or talk to her. I was miserable for 6 months and after that for another year and half because of that. DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!
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2006-11-22 12:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha i just went through this, you can try really hard btu in reality its not truly going to succedd! im sorry but its difficult to go back!
2006-11-22 12:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by Chrybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would actually be really hard to do but if the other person broke up with you it's really up to them whether this will work or not
2006-11-22 12:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by jess0866 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how to go about that,but its nice to know that Seneca is overwhelmed with holiday spirit.
2006-11-22 12:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by megofish2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question, easy answer is to not associate with that person while you are still vulnerable.
2006-11-22 12:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋