My Girlfrind cheated on me what do I do?

Question

My gf cheated on my last week. I kinda deserved it as I hadn't been the best boyfriend. I know I can move past this, it was only 2 kisses, but she wants to stay friends with the guy she cheated on me with. Is this right? I don't think I can move past this if that's the way it's going to be. Should I be ok with it? Please someone help!

We're 19 she lives about 2 hours north or me we have seen each other every weekend, literally, since she moved to school. She came clean with me and says she wants us to work both of our **** out. I have NEVER cheated on me, my mother cheated on my dad, I know and have seen how sick and useless you feel just as a kid, and I told her that was the one thing I feared the most. I got slack and stopped listening to all she had to say. I understand that maybe she got desprate for someone to hear her but I'm here now listening. This *** is in 2 of her classes, I just wish she would distance herself from him and get into the fight for us. I told her cheat on me once shame on you, twice shame on me, do it again and we're done.

Oh, and we'll be 2 years in March.

Answer 1

if she wants to work things out with you, she should not maintain a friendship with this guy. it just leaves the door open for future problems and trust issues. i would not be okay with it if i were you.

Answer 2

Are you stupid 2 kisses and she wants to remain friends with this dude, she obviously wants this dude but wants to keep you as well. She cheated then and the next thing she's going to make a mistake a sleep with him. She is using you for whatever reason maybe you give her everything she wants or whatever. But once a cheater is always a cheater she has no respect for herself nor for you. Leave that thang alone baby find a girl that only wants to kiss you. O yeah you did'nt deserve that nobody deserves to be cheated on, she could have just told you you were being a butt head or whatever you don't go and kiss somebody else.

Answer 3

okay, i was ggiven this brilliant advice "drop him like a hot cake" in other words - she is not worth u, a cheater is always a cheater, and i suggest that u take a break and se where it goes, cause honestly man, she aint in love if shez goin on kissin some guy behind ur back

u need - prob need a girl who will be there for u, she seems to be to engrossed in her own world to even think abt u, for if she would have even for a inute she prob would not have done what she did

u could stay friends with her if u please, however only and only if ur feelings wont get hurt, cause if they do this girl has gotta go, there will be better women out there for ya

and incase u guys do stick together, which may not be a good idea, i suggest that u have a serious talk abt her - concernin this guy - and ask her exactly why she still wants to be friends with him

okay here is my advice

but mainly i stree on my 1st point where i suggest that u drop her - dump her , and move on

Answer 4

Honestly, you are making excuses for her. She obviously isn't the best girlfriend either. However, if you and her have drifted apart and this is what happens then maybe you both should agree that you are not right for each other.

If she wants to stay friends with the guy she kissed and still remain your gf then that is not acceptable. He obviously is a threat to you and why would she put herself in the situation with him as if they kissed once who's to say it wouldn't happen again.

If you really want her, then tell her she has to make a choice - you or him - she can't have both! Good luck!

Answer 5

Hell no if my man cheated on me you better believe it would not be the same and if he still wanted to be friends with the girl he cheated with haha I dont think so...... she said it was just a kiss but a kiss leads to other things not saying ur gf did those things I am just saying becareful.... cause to me once a cheater always a cheater....no matter the sittuation even if you werent being the "best" boyfriend if you two love eachother you sould have talked it out not her go cheat and blame it all on u like its ur fault...ya know?

Answer 6

No, you should NOT be OK with this. Its one thing that she cheated on you with him and you are being real understanding and forgiving about that, however, she should NOT be keeping a friendship with this guy. That is asking way too much out of you to accept. I am sorry she did it in the first place. She does not have any 'love' feelings for you, move on is the best for this situation. Blessed be and good luck. Happy Thanksgiving.

Answer 7

a lot depends on the answer to the question, "how much do u still trust her?" a part of this question has been answered since u posted this question here. one thing u cud try is to tell her that u need some time alone, and that u should see how things work out after tht. note her reactions carefully. u should be able to decide then and there.

and try not to have any prejudices before u take this step.

all the best.

Answer 8

You have to decide if you want to be with her or not first of all. Second of all you have to decide whether or not you want to go back and forth with her. Even if you were not the best boyfriend as your girlfriend she owes you respect and she should have discussed things with you instead of running off and kissing someone else. It's sounds harsh but it's true. Everytime somethings goes wrong is she just going to go off and make out with someone else? If you still want to be with her forgive her but after you forgive her you have to let it go completely. Don't bring it up again because when you keep bringing it up it stops the relationship's growth. Let her know that she's put mistrust in your relationship and that she has to gain your trust back! If you don't want to be with her you still have to forgive her because unforgiveness turns into bitterness. And bitterness into hate. Cheating is never ok. I mean if you were making her that unhappy then she should have respected you enough to say "I'm unhappy and I want to see someone else." You don't have to accept it. I think of cheating as betrayal and when you are betrayed it's hard to look at that person in the same way as before. You have to decide for yourself whether or not you want to still be with her but either way forgive her! Does she still want to be with you? How is she acting? How did you find out about her kissing him? If she told you and is not apologetic then she's giving you a hint, she doesn't want to be with you anymore, sorry if that sounds mean but it's the truth.

Answer 9

Kissing someone is not automatically cause to dump her, but it is a warning sign. I also wouldn't say "I deserved it" right away. It's self-demeaning.

Did she express unhappiness to you before this happened?
How long have you been together?
How old are you both?
How does she know the guy she kissed, and for how long?
Does she talk to you about her concerns?

We really need more detail to give you an intelligent and useful answer.

Answer 10

Depends how old you are. well actually NO!!! There are more fished in the see.. didn't anyone ever tell you that. i know it might be hard to take that first step out of the relationship but once you do its all gonna be fine. SHE STILL WANTS TO BE HIS FRIEND!! that's not right at all!! she will do it again, I'm a girl. we don't always do well under temptation. once a cheater always a cheater. maybe she is just not the one. Only you can tell..I'm just giving my opinion> much love bye :)

Answer 11

First of all, since you say you deserve this than why are you asking what do you do? Apparently you cheated on her as well and now it's what do you do, you guys can either forgive each other and never do it again, or you guys can cut your loses and move on!