my boyfriend kinda of likes to drink alot and im gettin kinda sick of it... i mean its ok to drink once in a while but its like he wants to every chance he gets... and i dont like it cuz 1/2 the time im not with him.... what should i do ?!?!
2006-11-22 03:47:44 · 19 answers · asked by just ask me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be direct and force a choice. You stated he is your boy friend.
The choice will be to stop his abuse of alcohol or you will dump him. I know this sounds harsh but you have the advantage now of not being married to him. If you two do not have any children between you then this is yet another incintive to be assertative now.
If he refuses to stop his abuse of alcohol after you let him know how much it upsets you then he is not for you. The heartache and problems that come from a disfunctional relationship only grows much more worse the longer you stay in that abusive relationship. Just imagine the grief, the financial hardship, and the emotional toll this relationship will have on you if he chooses alcohol over your pain from his destructive actions?
As one phrase says, "You can see the hand writing on the wall."
Do not be gullable. Do not allow yourself to be minipulated. Either he will be willing to get some help concerning his alcohol problem or he will love that alcohol more than you.
2006-11-22 04:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by rev_dane_eidson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you tell him he will not change
even f you make him spend more time with you and make him do it sober, he WILL drink as soon as he is away from you
he will most likely continue like this for many many years, if not his whole life..
it is time to close that door and walk away form him, totally forgetting him all together..
even if you say, hey if you do not stop I will leave you, or stop and I will stay, you are only prolonging your misery and agony with this guy, because he will drink behind your back and sooner or later he will break to his old self and you would have waisted more time on him,
walk away NOW !
good luck
2006-11-22 12:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about drinking. If he respects you, he won't do it. If he does drink when he is not with you, nine chances out of ten, he'll probably get nailed with a DUI, an accident, or whatever, and you will be able to thank your lucky stars you weren't with him. Definitely tell him your concerns.
2006-11-22 11:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by towhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you worried that if you are not with him all the time when he's drinking he might cheat on you? Don't settle for anything less than what you want a boyfriend or hopefully marriage mate to be in your relationship.
2006-11-22 11:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes ur true bf....then he'll definately understand u .....u just tell him once.....if he cares 4 u ...then he'll definately remove this bad habit slowly....just tell him tht he can drink but only once a while...coz it is not at all good 4 health....just tell him tht u luv him n so u want him 4ever....4 long lasts....n 4 tht he shud b fit.....n to b fit he shudnt do all dis drinking everytime.....
if he doesnt listens to u then u can just simply ignore him 4 few dayz.....just tell him tht u wont talk to him...
try out dis...!
2006-11-22 11:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend, run like hell get out of that relationship asap. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 7 years. It only makes your life hell. If he is not willing to get help from AA then leave. I regret not leaving sooner I wasted my life with him. Believe me it is not worth putting up with that. if u guys ever have kids what kid of role model would he be.
2006-11-22 11:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Queenleo21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case I think it is safe to give him an ultimatum. Tell him that he needs to cut back or quit altogether and if he doesn't you have no choice but to leave him. Explaine to him how it makes you feel and what the risks of him and his activities are. Give it to him straight out.
2006-11-22 11:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Hotbox25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell him what to do. Give him an ultimatum, tell him "It's me or the booze." If he chooses the booze, let him go, its not worth it. If he continues to drink and you stay, believe me your in for a lot of heartache.
2006-11-22 12:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by schuby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...that's terrible. My parents are married and my mom hates it when my dad drinks. It's terrible, reallly. So don't get too involved with him unless you really love him and he will stop for you.
2006-11-22 11:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Emirii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and just like him know there are other things he could do than drink. or just let him know if he is not willing to quit he will live him.
2006-11-22 11:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋