I was once crazy about my boyfriend, but now I find a lot of the things he does to be very irritating. I am just not tolerant enough? He is a wonderful guy but I have trouble getting past these little things. Help!
2006-11-22 03:47:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depending on what about him irritates you you could be not tolerant enough, or you might not be..
2006-11-22 03:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very typical in a relationship. The infatuation part of the relationship has worn off and the true personalities are shining through. Plus the novelty of putting up with all their little quirks because you love them has worn off. Now comes the true test of your love for each other. It's not going to bed that sows your love for a person it is the everyday crap, the bills, the boredom, the nit picky little problems, that test your love for each other. When he does something irritating do you nag him to stop or do you let it go and except the fact that this too is what makes him, him. If you constantly bring it up you are creating a resentment in him to make sure he does it in front of you. Talking about it is the best way to alleviate these problems. My husband used to pick his toenails in the living room while watching TV. UGH! GROSS! I explained that this really turned my stomach and would it be possible for him to do this task when I am not in the room or better yet when he was alone in the bedroom or something. He understood and we have not had a problem since. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but it is a shot.
2006-11-22 04:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is immature and in the beginning of the relationship he was able to hide most of this from you. Remember, in the beginning of any relationship, there is usually so much chemistry (and you are being on your best behavior to attract a guy or gal) that you don't really get to know each other well until so much time has gone by. Then you see them for what they really are. In your case, you realize he is a nice guy but has a lot of irritating habits that you can not tolerate. Time to move on. Stay friends with him if you want, but find a new boyfriend. Good luck!
2006-11-22 03:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being able to overlook ones idiosyncrasies in a relationship is what separates true love for someone from an infatuation. Everyone has them. You will never find someone who is perfect in every way, and learning to overlook the little things that bother you will make the relationship stronger in the long run. I'm sure if you were to ask him, he could tell you about the little things that you do that annoy him. Try not to act hurt or surprised when he tells you though, cause his list is probably as long as yours.
2006-11-22 03:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by on2lifesjourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean.I feel the same way but I know it's because my feelings for him have changed and I no longer like him as before so what he talks about and how he expresses his self now irk me,but I never treat him badly because I realize I have changed my feelings for him and he is still the same person he was before so why treat him shady?any way we are breaking up as soon as he can find his own place and I won't treat him badly while he's here no matter how long he takes to move because he didn't do any thing bad to me he just can't love me the way I want him too so we have to break up,but we will always be friends as long as I respect him and he shows me the same.
2006-11-22 03:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just figure out if you really have a good time with him. try to be more tolerant cause you prolly have little quirks to, we all do. if you just cant enjoy time together then you just need ot break up and move on. if he's really a great guy then you prolly just need to get over what's bugging you, or talk to him about it.
2006-11-22 03:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was great as long as it has lasted, but he just doesn't 'do' it for you anymore. He is not the one for you and he is not who you are wanting in your future life. You are two different people and you know it. Time to move on and date others. Blessed be and happy holidays :)
2006-11-22 03:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the little things that count. If he's bugging you now after how long?, then multiply that by any number of months or years & then decide if he's worth it--cuz believe me, there's precious little chance you or anyone else will change him (or anyone). People are who we are & only we can change us. :)
2006-11-22 03:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Clycs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about his behaivor and tell him that you really cant tolerate his mood swings.. that maybe he needst to get some help... tell him to get a grip of his life and to stop taking it on you .. because you are special and you deserve the best of him ... dont be too harsh but mayne try talking to him maybe he has alot of things on his mind... luck!
2006-11-22 03:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if there were 3 habits or qwerks he could change about you what would they be, Stay calm, now ask him if you were to change them for him if he would stop 3 things you don't like about him.
2006-11-22 03:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by gregory l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋