I am 16. My 2 sisters are 14 and 13. They come to me everyday to talk about their problems and expect me to solve them. The problems are about school, friends, home, peer pressure, etc. I never have the answers to their problems because I truely don't know how to help them. They yell at me for being "stupid and immature" and say "I don't know why you are the older sister and you can never solve my problems. I know a lot of people with older sisters that are much stronger and smarter than you." They tell my parents and my parents agree that I am stupid and immature. Two things I don't understand is 1. Why don't my sisters ask the parents for help instead especially if they admit that I am stupid? 2. Why don't my parents help them? They only say I am stupid and don't even try to help or ask them to tell them their problems. They are parents and act like they don't care.
It is unfair that I have to do the parents job while the parents don't have to. I am NOT the parent. Do you understand
2006-11-22 03:37:33 · 12 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sadly, this happens alot in todays society. My wife is the oldest of three and she tells the exact same story. She loves her family very much. But still suffers, years later, when she tells me stories of how unfairly she was treated and how much was expected of her.
Be praying that God would be molding a perfect spouse for you right now. One that will encourage you and lift you up where your family is failing.
2006-11-22 03:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by bobthebuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact is we're the Older Sister, and were the ones our little siblings look up too. My little sister always comes to me befor my parents, I don't know maybe it's some sister- secret thing. It does get old every now & then but you just gotta put up with it,,
Parents, I understand.. I always get the talk "Your The Big Sister, Act Like It More" and so on.. I just put it behind me
There's not much you can really do, family's can be a big pain at times... but also at times they can be the only thing that holds you together
2006-11-22 03:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by melanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time they ask for your help, tell them if they are sooo much smarter than you, then they should be able to figure out what to do. don't give them any advice anymore. And as far as your parents, they are no better. Just focus on your school work and your life, and one of these days, you will be out of that situation and be very successful. Don't let them get you down, just because they don't know what to do, and that goes for your parents do. Parents are supposed to be supportive, not bringing you down. They are just trying to put you at their level, which you are obviously above them. Good luck sweetie! :)
2006-11-22 03:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not solve their problems ignore them. By now they should have stopped bothering you. You can speak to your parents about it and tell them that it hurts you when they accuse you of being stupid. Tell them if this continues you will leave home and start living with friends. If they still torment you then go to police.
2006-11-22 03:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that your siblings come to you because you are closer to their age and they probably can relate to you more than with your parents, it's ok for them to come to you because you are their family member, but if you feel like the questions that they are asking is way over your head, than this is the time when you direct them to your parents.
2006-11-22 03:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sylvia W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just the role typically taken by the oldest sister, teens often feel stupid talking to their parents about their problems. just tell them that you dont want to and talk to your parents politely about taking responsibility for their childrens needs
2006-11-22 03:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell your perrants how you feel. i think you got a point there. it is not your job to take care of your sisters puer pressure and...or enything your are 16 and should be allowed to make your own mistakes you stil just start to experiens grownup live. and í`m sure that you also still go trough pressure i am 23 now and have 3 susters 2 of them 18 now and one 20. i just got married a week ago and is stil comfused about live myself if i had to fix all my sussters problems what a disaster it would be... i think your perants are the stuped ones expekting you to act as a perrant it is not your job... and you are not stuped. let them know "HELLO 16 I GOT MY OWN LIVE TO SORT OUT!!!" very very GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2006-11-22 03:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by manuel j 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow.... why would your parents and siblings treat you so poorly?? Name calling from your parents?? Sounds to me like your parents are the imature stupid ones? They have children and they can't raise them.
2006-11-22 03:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sisters to go to their friends' sisters who they think are stronger and smarter than you. You're not obligated to take their abuse just because you're older.
2006-11-22 03:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋