Ok, I met this guy about a year ago, but we just started hanging out for the past 2 months, and now he wants to I guess be friends "with benefits", but I kinda like him, and I dont want to get feelings for him, and then him push me away. And he said the only reason he wouldn't is because I might want more, and its true, I would want more, and he said that he just doesnt want more right now, maybe later, so I would rather just leave it as just friends, that way I know I wont get hurt. What do ya'll think?
2006-11-22 03:28:18 · 15 answers · asked by (¯`·._.·[•·.·´¯`·.·• Ariana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 30 if that helps
2006-11-22 03:29:06 · update #1
hey
i think that u shud give it a shot and b frends w/ benefits bcause u never kno...maybe he will want a relationship if he sees that ure willing 2 be fwbbbbb
good luck
2006-11-22 03:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by *BrItNeY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who's a girl that calls me up every once in a while (very rarely). We'll hang out and talk at the coffee shop or whatever. If she feels like it, we might sleep together, or might not. We're completely unemotionally attached. I don't have a gf now and she doesn't have a bf. If we did, it probably would not work this way.
2006-11-22 03:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your exactly right.... leave it as friends. If you will want more than you will just get hurt. Im a girl who tried the friends with benefits and ended up gettin my heart broke because I developed feelings for this person who didn't even realize what was goin on. He just thought it was great sex lol. Good luck..... keep it as friends and find a man who will want a great relationship with the sex.
2006-11-22 03:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAAD idea! (Some) women get emotionally attacted after being intimate with someone and if you know that you already have feelings for him you are in for heartache down the line. TRUST me, guys who do the friends with benefits NEVER decide that they really like you and want to be in a relationship with you. Sorry but I know from experience, you'll just be heartbroken....
2006-11-22 03:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 30 years old he's still looking for casual sex. That should tell you all you need to know.
He's not interested in anything other than an available body to screw upon demand. If you don't want to be treated like a whore-for-free, then keep looking.
2006-11-22 03:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think very few people are brain dead enough to have a friendship with benefits without negative consequences. AND there are more females in that group of few than males. Sex does something in the mind of most people that is not easily undone. I think you are leaning in the right direction. If you think you couldn't handle it easily it's very likely you can't because many who think they can handle it easily can't and go through hell.
2006-11-22 03:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it and regretted it...had emotions for him and he didn't care and it just ended up hurting me...Deep down I knew that it would happen but I let my emotions get the best of me and should've relied more on my head to think this situation through. I think it's playing with fire and that eventually in a situation like this...someone is bound to get burned...Good luck and take care:)
2006-11-22 03:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits doesnt work you end up getting used and hurt ,i wouldnt go there ,just stay as friends.
2006-11-22 03:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor.....don't get into the friends "with benefits" thing...you yourself say that you will want more....don't think you will get it so you will end up unhappy and hurt....let it go and just be friends...if he won't accept that then move on.....good luck
2006-11-22 03:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him... It's a recipe for heartbreak.
Keep it as just a friendship or you will get hurt since you know that you have feelings for him and he doesn't have any for you. You deserve more than that.
2006-11-22 03:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋