My boyfirend and I just moved in together 3 months ago. At first it was great. We finally got to be together and our friends live around the corner. Now 3 months later it's like I'm not even there. He works all day, comes home, takes a shower, and gets online and plays games with his friends all night. The same friends that he works with all day and that live around the corner. The only thime I get to talk yo him is the 5 minutes he stops hims game to eat dinner. Then it's right back to the game. He plays every day for hours, and on the weekends he's even worse, he'll play for 10 hours at a time. And I can't talk to him while he is playing because he wears a microphone so he can talk to his friends. I know that everybody has a hobby, but this is rediculus. We never talk anymore the only time he talks is when he wants to have sex. I am so over this game thing he is doing. I want to push the computer off the balcony. Then when I ask him to get off he's mad, at me! Help!
2006-11-22 02:45:40 · 14 answers · asked by peanut 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boys and their toys! I have been there not as bad as your situation, but I can relate. Tell him he has to decide what is more important, 10 hours on a game or loosing you. Don't let him treat you like your invisible. The game is not the issue his priority's are all wrong. Don't be afraid to say something even if you need to unplug the computer to get him to listen. If he does not want to or does not understand where your coming from then you may want to consider leaving him. My suggestion is sit and think of what you want to say and how to word it so you don't sound like a raving loon or a nagging girl friend (I hate when men say that) and then approach him. Say we need to talk about this situation.. Explain to him what you feel and what he needs to do to help change it. If he cares he'll listen and make changes, if he doesn't then it's time to go. He obviously does not see an issue with his actions so you have to make it known, letting your self fume over it is only affecting you, and making you upset, he should share that. Remember men don't know what we don't tell them, communication is key in your situation.
Good Luck..
2006-11-22 02:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by queenkeva_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used. You are nothing to him other than a sex toy. If you have any thougts of changing him, forget it: he will NOTchange! If you have any self-respect and any hope for a reasonable future with a decent man, dump this guy like he was radioactive and don't look back. The sooner you're free of this self-centered freak the better off you'll be - and next time, don't be in such a hurry to jump into the housekeeping game. Again, he WILL NOT CHANGE! Move on and don't feel sorry for yourself: YOU deserve BETTER!
2006-11-22 11:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell him how he is making you feel, which is ignored and unhappy. You don't need to criticise him for his behaviour, just let him know that the choices he is making make you feel very very sad and disappointed. Don't threaten to leave, but make it clear that this was not what you expected.
If he responds with questions about what do differently, have some positive suggestions about things you would rather do together. Maybe have some info on a dance class , cycling, some social evenings.
If he changes, great then he really wants to make you happy and just didn't know. If he doesn't, then you know he has priotized his games and friends over you. Then its your decision what to do.
Best of luck, this is tough i know.
2006-11-22 10:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Inpurgatory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stand for crap like that. I've been ignored by boyfriends before, then I finally found a guy that appreciates me and we've been together for more than a year now. It sounds like the relationship isn't worth it at all, so unless you really wouldn't -not couldn't- want to live without this guy, dump his sorry *** like a ton of bricks. Having a boyfriend that dismisses you like that isn't worth your time and energy. I've done it, and trust me, you can have better.
2006-11-22 10:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Erin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. go out with some girls (or guys, whatever) and sto making his dinner, and dont be there when he wants sex. if he doesnt even notice, then you'll know its time to leave for good.
my bf used to be the same way, i'd get home and he'd sit at his computer until 4am or so, every night. i just kept yelling and complaing about it and then i stopped sleeping there and thats when he stopped doing it.
2006-11-22 10:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tease him and see if it helps. Dress all sexy one night, but don't make any moves. And if/when he tries to make a move, just shrug him off, tell him you're really tired. Do this a couple of times and see if he doesn't start paying a little more attention to you. Good luck.
2006-11-22 10:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a talk with your boyfriend about his obsession with games on his computer .
He should pay you much,much more attention.If he is unwilling then move on and find someone who will find that your love and devotion should be reciprocated.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 11:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to do for Yourself and ignore him and don't feed him or give him anyu sex until you can work it out so that he includes you in his life. Go to see your friends or anywhere but
the apartment and eventually he will miss being served.
2006-11-22 10:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mailman Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be there then...you dont deserve that kind of treatment! Sounds like he is using you. Get out of there and leave him to his childish play.
2006-11-22 10:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't start getting the attention from him that you deserve you will find someone else who will.
2006-11-22 10:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋