Ok, so last night I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I'm exhausted from all the fighting we do. It just doesn't seem worth it anymore. Don't get me wrong, I love him and I always will, it's just that I'm sick and tired of fighting over the dumbest things. One time we fought about who was going to jump in the pool first. It was retarded. We're 18 and fight like we're in middle school!! Well anyways, he got totally defensive and started talking crap to me. He told me that I was the worst girlfriend in the world and that I never did anything for him. Which is a complete lie. Anyways, I guess all I'm wondering is if I did the right thing. This isn't the first time we've broken up about this. Should I go back and work it out like we always do, or should I just leave it alone? I would love to get back with him, but I don't know if it's exactly the right thing to do! Help, please!!
2006-11-22 02:23:35 · 20 answers · asked by Amber R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can totally relate to what you are going through. My boyfriend and I fight about stupid things as well. It hasn't caused us to actually break up.. but omg the fights get blown way out of proportion and it is frustrating. If you love him you just need to sit down with him and talk things out, if neither of you are willing to work on it.. then the relationship is most likely doomed. Good luck girl!
2006-11-22 02:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Katiie Babiie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the worst girlfriend ever? Oh no, that was my title at your age. I guess you have stolen the crown.
Let him go and you will have more time with a brand new babe. If you go back and try to work things out you will be wasting your time. People don't change and you two will still fight like brother and sister(which will always be weird), and you will resent each other because neither one of you will have broadened your horizons. Anyways..Mr. Wonderful (that doesn't think your a bad girlfriend) is right around the corner and if he sees you hanging out with some pansy who's crying about how you never do anything for him Mr. Wonderful is going to walk right on by. Drama disgusts most people and pretty soon it's going to get to you too.
2006-11-22 10:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know whether you have reached your limit on the fighting. All of us have different limits and you tend to know when you have reached it and the time has come to cut loose.
No matter how much you love someone its not worth it when you are miserable with each other. Where is the fun in that?
If you were to get back with him, you would both need to try and work through the reasons why you are rowing and make an effort to speak to each other civily. I recently went throuight this with my partner of almost 7 years. It got so we were both pulling up things from our relationship to hurt each other.
I started by not reacting the majority of the time, saying I would talk about it when he was prepared to talk to me civily and calmly.
Now he is also making the same effort so it is quite rare that we both feel like fighting. We are communicating more too. You have to be prepared to listen to each other and take on board how the other person feels even if you dont understand it yourself. Feelings arent explainable they just are.
Good luck whatever you decide. Happiness in life is important.
2006-11-22 10:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by mjastbury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends. If your dating and fighting all the time thats not good. Imagine fighting with the person you love all your life is not worth it, it brakes the relationship. Although, if you really love why not talk to him and tell him how you feel about him, the thinks you dislike about him and if he really loves you he will try to change. Also, you should do the same for you. Its very hard specially if your totally different from each other.
2006-11-22 10:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, you shouldn't be in a relationship that all you do is fight. Fighting doesn't make anyone happy and sometimes we are just not compatible with the person we are attracted to. There is an old saying "If you love someone, set them free, if they come back it was meant to be, if not it wasn't" You did the right thing. Hang in there.
2006-11-22 10:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a realitonship for 2 years and me and him fought all the time but we were crazy about eachother and we did break up and havent got back together since its been 1 year now since we broke up and im with someone else but i wish i would have made up with him and never let him go because everyday your going to be living in regret wondering what it would be like if you could have just worked it out and its just prue hell..but if your wanting to meet new people and try for another realishonship maybe a better one than go for it but youll always think about him and wonder if he is doing the same.
2006-11-22 10:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm this is tough
what i figure out about ur situation if u r fighting over the petty things it means there s something big behind
take time to think why would it bother him to argue about who is jumping into the pool first what s triggering this reaction
once u figure it out work on it
to me to fight about who s jumping into the pool means there s something big behind it which could mean either u r always bossy or in control and he needs some control in this or he may feel that u r taking him for granted
good luck
2006-11-22 10:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not working out, it's not working out. You can't keep torturing yourself in a relationship that isn't healthy. If all you do is fight, then it's not worth staying together. Only you can decide if you two can work it out but if you decide to work it out you have to also work on the communication problems. Other than that let sleeping dogs lie, and let the breakup stay on.
2006-11-22 10:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the small fights signal bigger problems. Ive been in the same situation in past relationships and the best thing to do is get out of them. staying together only hurts both of you ( as it seems to have done) im sure you worked on your relationship alot while you together and it just didtn work out, now you both have a chance to grow seperately.
2006-11-22 10:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ronnie Gardocki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave. Think about it for a second. If you marry this guy, then you'll have to live with his behavoir for the rest of your life. Do you really want that? And don't think you can "change him." It's impossible to change someone into who you want them to be. You've broken it off, now go find someone worth your time. Good luck!
2006-11-22 10:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋