Ok,i have been hanging out with and ex,we went out nine months and a half ago,and he says,he still has feelings for me,i dont know what to do...........when i talk,or see him,all these memories,come back to me,but i have a boyfriend................i dont know what to do man.................someone help,lol
2006-11-22 02:19:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thankyou all for answering. and for the honest answers,i will def stop hanging out with my ex..........but ,see the thing is,my boyfriend lives in another state........
2006-11-22 02:42:31 · update #1
i have feelings for him,but,distance,kind of makes it hard,yea,yea,then why did i go out with him? bc,i met him last summer,summer 05',and kept in touch for a yr,and hes always wanted me to be his gf,this yr ,i accpeted him,and now its 2 months
2006-11-22 02:45:47 · update #2
First you need to consider why you still "hang out" with your ex even though you have a new boyfriend. There must have been something that fueled the need to break up, otherwise this would be a mute point. The more you distance yourself from a relationship, the fond memories overshadow the negative, which is normal. We don't want to remember the pain, only happy thoughts. Think hard why you didn't want to be with this person any longer, and if you can not come up with a decent reason, then perhaps you made a mistake and belong together. The person I feel sorry for is your boyfriend, who does not deserve to be strung along for an emotional ride. Be honest and upfront with him, he deserves at least the common courtesy that you have not lost your feelings for your ex.
2006-11-22 02:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that hanging out with ex's only complicates matters. Keep in mind he is an ex for a reason. I think its only natural that when you are around him, that things will go well, but I think you are overlooking the bad times or the things that drove you nuts about him.
I think that you should focus on your current boyfriend and try not to talk to te ex that much.
2006-11-22 10:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love and care about your current boyfriend, you won't leave him for an ex. There must have been a reason why both of you broke up - you have to think about what happened in the past as well. If you're not happy with your current boyfriend then leave him but you still have to think about the circumstances in which you and your ex broke up. There always going to be "temptations" in a relationship. If you care about your boyfriend, then you'll forget about the ex. You can't have both.
2006-11-22 10:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we are intimate with someone a connection is made and that connection endures. However, you have to realize that a) there's a reason the relationship ended in the first place and b) by doing this you are making a conscious decision to end your present relationship with your boyfriend. If both of those factors you are okay with, then be honest with your present boyfriend and break up with him. When we want adult relationships, sometimes they can be hard work, this may be one of those times for you.
2006-11-22 10:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by snowgoose8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember the good times, and the bad times. See if you like this new guy your dating and if you don't like him as much as you like the old guy, dump him and get back together with your old boyfriend. If it's the other way around, stay with your new boyfriend and tell your ex that you just don't like him any more.
~Hope this helps! Rachee
2006-11-22 10:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it day by day. If you are thinking about your ex while your with you b/f. Then obviously your b/f isn't right for you. Never second guess yourself.
2006-11-22 10:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany Rae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him and you truly believe that he likes you still then see if you like him more than your boyfriend now. if you do then dump your boyfriend that you have now, but in a nice way and then talk to your ex.
2006-11-22 10:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_nerds_91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is better? who is most sensitive bla bla? (all the characteristics that you like on a guy)who do you like the most? you need to make up your mind. just sit somewhere and think-with who do you have the best memories and with who do you have more fun? good luck!
2006-11-22 10:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop hanging out with him. it just leads to a lot of confusion and it's too convenient not to remember why things didn't work out to begin with.
2006-11-22 10:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your EX don't move backward and stop going out with him you have someone
2006-11-22 10:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋