My son's father and I are fighting over our 8 year old son. In Feb. he dissappeared with him, until July when I found out where he was. I called the cops and got my child back. I told his father, I would be willing to file for joint custody so there wouldn't be a fight in court. Before it could get that far, he told me he was going to fight for full custody. I had my number changed so he could'nt contact me. My number is unlisted. He called me yesterday. My mom talks to him still, but she says she didn't give him the number. She swore on her fathers grave she didn't. He says he got it online, but I tried and couldn't find it anywhere. Should I believe my mother or should I break off contact with her too? Should I call him? He wants to work out a custody agreement out of court.
2006-11-22 02:19:40 · 7 answers · asked by Jodi C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't give your mom any more information, but don't break contact. There are ways to get anyones number online. I've done it before. Trust me, he could have gotten your number in a way you just haven't discovered yet. What you need to do is go to court. Now. If you don't, this will continue and you will find it harder and harder to trust anyone. Also, fight for full custody. If he ran with your child, you'll probably win. Good luck!
2006-11-22 02:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get anybodies number online if you are willing to pay one of the special search services, even cell numbers..
There is no such thing as an out of court (off the record) custody agreement. Without a court order, nothing is enforcable. You may lose your son. Get everything ordered by the court and have child support payments made to the court. That way if he doesn't pay, he will be persued at court expense, not yours.
2006-11-22 02:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by superspiker69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you trust your own mother? Anything is available online for the right price, and a child is involved, how much would you think about laying down $30-$50 for an ex's phone number??
Do you have a lawyer yet? You need one as soon as possible, cause both you and your ex have lost control of this situation, and you can't saw the kid in half!!! I feel sorry for your son. If you can't keep your hurt emotions out of the custody agreement, then you need to seek a lawyer !!!
2006-11-22 02:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at what happen last time he was left with your son. Your son is not an object to be fighting over, he loves the both of you as his parents and this may be very confusing and painful for him, so do it the right way and go to court file for joint custody and this way he can't just up and disappear for months with your son. You both need to stop thinking what arrangement is fair for either one of you as parents but what is best for your child. As for Mom shame on her if she gave him the number, but Mom may just want you both to settle things out so don't be to mad at her.
2006-11-22 03:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kind of hard. Online you can actually pay those services that provide info about you or paid for a skip trace to be done on you. If he says he found online without paying thats a lie. You might want to be careful or you may make something up tell your mother and see if your ex finds out. Then you will know if its your mother. I would say don't act against your mother unless your for sure.
2006-11-22 02:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be changing my number again & not giving it to anybody. That way if he ends up with it again, you know it wasn't your mum. As for contacting him, I personally wouldn't as it sounds like he is playing games with you & just trying to mess with your head. But at the end of the day, you need to do what you think is best for your little man as he is the most important person involved here. Best of luck to you
2006-11-22 02:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I don't know. Try having your number changed again.
2006-11-22 03:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋