i know its crasy ... but i one day im like all over him and the next im crying .. trying to call him and making a fool out of my self cause he told me he dosnt love me ... .. What can i do... i want this to leave once and for all! -- thank you
2006-11-22 02:17:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need more closure. Because you obvisouly think there is still a chance for you. Ask him a favor and have him give you a list in details of all the reasons why he doesnt love you. And tell him this may sound silly but it will help with closure. If he is a jerk he may not help you and he may enjoy the fact that your still droling over him.
Anyways, Once you have this list you have to look at the things that you are not willing to change, or even if pigs could fly you will never change.
For example. If he said, Well i'm into Blondes, Your thinking, hey i can die my hair, then everything would be ok right?
But if he said. Your not open enough, i want a girl who likes thresomes and i want to share you with my Brothers.
Now your thinking, There is no way i would do that for you, you sicko!
Of course that was an extreme example, But you have to really think about how you too are not compatible for each other, For some people "I dont love you" is enough, but i'm guessing your thinking there is something you did wrong.
Don't worry there will be other guys!
2006-11-22 02:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look there is a reason why you broke up with this guy. Like the old song "breaking" up is hard to do. Look do not even call this guy, he does not care for you, so quit wasting your tears. What you do is take it one day at a time. I am sure you have a good friend that you can go to a movie or go out with and just relax. The busier you can stay it will help. Time will help you get over this, like everyone you are human and we all have been down this road. I know I have. But you have to be strong and say to yourself there is a reason why this relationship did not work out. There is someone out there who is a "special" just for you, who will treat you like you should be treated. Try and keep busy and try not to dwell on this at all. As each day that goes "mother time" will put her healing hand on you and you will get over this part of your life. If you do this you will be fine.
2006-11-22 10:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...Done that...Trust me i know exactly what your going through...it's partially your intense emotionally feelings and that part of you that just doesn't want to let go either because you love him or he makes u feel secure/happy in some sense.Even though you are aware of the situation at hand that stubborn part of you is gonna make you go though some heavy emotional turmoil until you yourself realize that there are better people out there. Until than, get ready for an emotional roller coaster ride whether you like it or not. Its only natural for you to go through these emotions...it's a sign of being healthy in a sense. Just like when you get a cold, your nose runs and you sneeze etc...until your body heals. It took me a good 6 months to get over my ex even though I new I was only hurting myself by crying...but in someways i guess i needed to and wanted to. Soon after I meet a guy that swept me off my feet again and I was right back at square one before i knew it.
2006-11-22 10:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Surf me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. I've had my share of guys but I finally found the one who aint gonna break my heart. I gave it to him knowing verry well I could end up like you have, but I loves me and won't break it. I know that. Don't try to get him back honey, thats what gods for. Just ask god and, pray. And while your at it, get tubs of your favorite ice cream falvor and sit in front of the TV and watch movies that have nothing to do with romance and just forget about him! Have sleep overs! Just live! Live! thats all you need. Forget about him! Just live. Thats what I did and I found the right guy. Hope it helps!
~Hannah
2006-11-22 10:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there!
But it was almost 20 years ago, it still hurts when I think about it/her!
I moved on and time helped heal, met my wife who is better and we are about to celebrate 10 happy years of marriage.
SO, I know it is hard to see the future but it will get better for you!
Good luck.
2006-11-22 10:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a game he's playing. he see's you going crazy over him and that feeding his ego. i know it hurts and i have seen both side of the fence. you can vent and cry, but don't let him see your emotions. or he will keep doing what he's doing. if he see that your calm and cool and not dying to get him back he'll think somethings wrong and try to work things out with you.
2006-11-22 10:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by ArtSiNister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep yourself busy. you should hang with friends and do things you like to do/ have to do to keep your mind off him until you can get over him. i know it hurts but only time will heal your pain. maybe you should write in a journal or something when you are alone and cry and you will feel better eventually.
2006-11-22 10:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Essie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. just tell yourself hes the one whos a jerk and theres some one better for you, sooner or latter you will heal, just gonna take sometime.
2006-11-22 10:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by StarWarsFanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who loves you too.
2006-11-22 10:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
2006-11-22 10:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋