I recently had a friends with benefits relationship with a 35 year old divorced mother of 3. She was having friends with benefits relationships with two other guys and when I told her I loved her, which I do she wouldn't talk to me or return my e-mails.
I'm 11 years younger, single.
2006-11-22 02:13:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you went into this relationship as friends with benefits than you knew what the deal was from the get go. If she made it clear that was the type of relationship she wanted then what made you think she was going to change her mind??? She obviously meant what she said. I think you should try and move on sweetie before you really find yourself hurt a lot more.
2006-11-22 02:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wasn't right for you man, I'm sure she's a nice person and all, and that you still care about her, but 24 and 35, that's difficult. at 24 an older person should be more like, 28, 30. perhaps at 35 you can take another go at it with someone who's 46, and you two will probably have more in common and be on the same page.
it isn't all you though; she should have known that was coming eventually, and perhaps thought that being younger you were all about that and could handle it without the commitment. if you think that might be on the horizon, you should be more upfront about that to begin with, rather than placing yourself in a such a predicament. at least it taught you a bit about who you really are, which is a good thing to take away from this.
it could be a phase that she's going through, a way to get away from the issues that contributed to the demise of the relationship and a way of keeping people at bay, while reaping the benefits. there are plenty of older women out there who would really appreciate you, so keep at it elsewhere.
2006-11-22 10:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 yrs old and she is sleeping around and only wanting the sex benefit of men. You deserve a woman that wants only YOU and to be with ONLY YOU. There are too many diseases out there to play rush-in roulette with this woman that is old enough to know better but obviously doesn't care and isn't wanting or looking for a REAL relationship with any man. Be good to yourself, be thankful to move on without her in your life, and get with a woman that does want what you want. Just as us women deserve the very best mate in our lives, you men deserve the very same. Don't settle sweetheart, you deserve more then she was ever able to offer. Go get tested and go on with your life being thankful that you can. She is no good for you. YOU want her because she doesn't want to be with you, she is a challenge in that way to you, forget the challenge and go find someone that will love you equally as much as you will love her. Blessed be..... I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday!!!
2006-11-22 10:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits are ok. as long as you both know thats what you are. if you knew from the beginning, you should have stopped it when you felt like you could have started getting feelings for her. she knew it sounds like, that thats all you guys were, and its obvious if she had 2 other guys. but like i said, if you knew that you guys were "buddies" then you shouldnt have tried to give her your all, b/c usually in situtations like this one, it always ends up hurting one of the 2!! i know you cant help where your feelings lead you, but maybe you should have tried a little harder to really really know that thats all you guys would be. sorry things ended up so bad for you! good luck next time :)
2006-11-22 10:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Erica Rene'e!!~~** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she only wants benefits not a relationship that is why she is not emailing or talking to you.
2006-11-22 10:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um no she wasnt if you are11years younger you ned to find some one else that is your age not her she was not right for you
sorry you will find some one
2006-11-22 10:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she wasn't right for you she had multiply partner, she needs to find herself again
2006-11-22 10:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so - let it go. She is obviously not looking for what you want. If she wants you, let her come to you.
2006-11-22 10:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey is her lost look for someone else you deserve better if you want to be happy
2006-11-22 10:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by nancy o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously doesnt know what she wants!! i think its better to move on...
2006-11-22 10:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋