Our older cat is sorta mean to our 3 month old kitten , I wish he would play with her?

Question

Mt older cat always hisses and is mean to our 3 month old kitten . I wish he would play with her . Sometimes he does play with her , but do you think he`s just an old grump or does he not want to be followed !

Answer 1

JUst give the older cat some time, it will adjust to the new kitten and become friends with it.

Answer 2

I have 2 Adult Cats, A male and a female from the same litter. They are 3 years old and recently I rescued a 5 week old Female kitten which I intent to find another home for. The first day Both my Adult Cats hissed at her and they acted more frightened than anything. They basically went for high ground so the kitten couldn't come near them. The Big Male is a Maine Coon mix I call Little Frank and he's enormous. He's even big compared to his Sister Sabrina who's also a 3 yr old Maine Coon so he literally dwarfs this poor little kitten I call Angel. Around the 3rd day something interesting tarted to happen. Little Frank (my 20 lb Maine Coon) Started to play with Angel the kitten. He would still hiss here and there but he would start to play with her sporadically. It was the start of a magical relationship. Frank basically became her surrogate Mother or her Nanny if you will. On the other hand, 4 weeks later Sabrina (my 3 yr old female) is clearly jealous. She acts very strange. She also is more playful than I've seen her in some time but she's just nasty toward Angel the kitten. Neither Adult is dewclawed but I trim their claws because they're inside cats and also I don't want them hurting the kitten. She "smacks" her more or less and it's very hard. It's certainly not nice. It's not her kitten AND it's a female to boot. It's understandable but I wish she would lighten up. She's just so mean and hateful it's clearly a jealousy/territorial issue. I just feel blessed that the Big Male "Little Frank" is willing to play with her. He's so gentle too it's amazing. He uses just the right amount of force to let her know he's had enough and he never makes her yelp or cry. He did once or twice in teh beginning because he didn't know his own strength I think.

Basically I've learned that Adult Female Cats do NOT like female kittens from another litter! Probably Male kittens as well. I'm sure it's built into their genetic code somewhere. They know it's not their kitten so basically it's an outcast as far as they're concerned. It has a funny smell, comes from another litter etc. I think with Adult males it's a different story. Or maybe I just lucked out in this case. Go slow and take your time. Let them spend about 15 minutes at a time in the same room under supervision for the first week or so. Gradually introduce them to each other and make sure you trim the Adult Cats claws! Don't dewclaw them or do anything drastic, just remove the sharp points so they can't scratch the kittens eyes out or cause any other serious injury. Don't forget the dewclaws on their front paws only!

Answer 3

Cats are like that. Seven years ago we got a puppy and our cat was like "What? Oh no you di'nt." But eventually she sort of accepted the dog. They played and were sometimes pals. Then a year later .. well..we found an abandoned kitty and what'r ya gonna do, right? So, Isis (our first cat) was VERY put out with us when we brought the kitty into the household. Isis could NEVER make that adjustment. To this day, Isis refuses to love Frigg (the other cat). We've done everything people have suggested to make them get along. They share a food bowl. Isis will just stand about 6 feet back growling and hissing until Frigg finishes, vice versa. So, she's never completely accepted any other animal into the home. But she knows it her life and she just goes upstairs and hangs with my daughter and never allows the other 2 to step into her upstairs domain. Well, sometimes the dog but never the other cat! Just love both and give them a place to get away from each other when they need to.

Answer 4

As cats can be territorial creatures, bringing a new kitty home to meet Fido or Fluffy can be a hair-raising experience for not only the owner but also the resident pets—if not handled correctly. A peaceful relationship between new and existing feline or canine housemates requires time, patience and work. The introduction process generally takes a few weeks before the pets are all cohabitating peacefully. At times, though, it can take several weeks. The trick is to do it slowly and cautiously…and follow the guidelines below.
Isolate the new cat in a separate “Safe Room”. That is closed off from the other pets (make sure the door is securely shut and doesn’t open easily). This smaller, confined area will help the new cat to feel safe and adjust more quickly to his new home. Provide a litter box, scratching post, toys, food, and water in the new cat’s room. This separation will also give your current pets time to get used to the new cat’s smell and the idea of having a new occupant in the house. During the first week, the only interaction that your new cat and resident cats should have is playing paws under the door.

Remember. cats like routine, not change Your resident cats’ behavior may initially change when you first bring the new cat home. Most common is hissing, growling, hiding or fighting among resident pets. Your current cats may even act differently toward you by displaying aggression or ignoring you all together. With your new cat in his “safe room,” the new and resident cats will all have the opportunity to become familiar with each others’ scents while safely separated by a door. As they begin to acclimate to each other, the cats will feel less threatened and, with time, the negative behavior should dissipate.

Always introduce a new cat to the resident cats before introducing him to the resident dog(s). In most cases, the cat to cat introductions will be more harried, with the cat to dog introductions being somewhat easier.
Introducing Cats
The new cat and resident cats should have no face-to-face interaction for the first week. This will allow the new cat time to get comfortable with his new environment and family. The stress of a new environment can cause a cat to show signs of an upper respiratory infection (watch for sneezing, eye or nose discharge) or diarrhea. Watch to make sure that the new cat is eating well, drinking and using the litter box. In almost every case, a cat that does not use his litter box is suffering from a medical condition. Any instance of inappropriate elimination (outside of the litter box) should be followed up with a visit to the vet.

After keeping the new cat in a room of his own for the first week, start introducing the smells of each cat to the other. You can do this by brushing all of the cats with the same brush to get their scents on each other. Also, try feeding them each a special treat on either side of the door. Doing so will help each cat to associate the smell of the other cat with the positive experience of eating the treat (usually wet food works best). You may want to have your resident cats go into the new cat’s room (and visa versa) when he is not there to help them get acclimated to his scent.

After introducing smells for a few days, when you are ready for the first face-to-face introduction, put the new cat in his carrier and let the resident cats come into the “safe room.” This will give you an opportunity to observe the interaction among the cats while the new cat is protected in his carrier.

Usually with this initial meeting there will be some hissing and/or posturing. If the interaction seems as though it could lead to aggression, you will need to do this controlled introduction using the carrier a few more times before removing the barriers and allowing the cats to meet face-to-face. If the cats all appear to be curious or simply wary with no outward signs of aggression, then you can open the carrier door and let the new cat walk out into the territory of the resident cats. Do not rush this process. It is very important to the long term harmony of their relationship that the introduction process proceed at a pace comfortable for each of the cats.

Monitor all interactions closely during the first weeks. Do not leave the cats alone unsupervised until you are comfortable that there will not be aggressive behavior displayed by any of the cats. During the first few weeks, the new cat should stay in his “safe room” when no one is home to supervise.

If interaction among the cats deteriorates instead of improving, return the new cat to his “safe room.” At this point you will need to start the introduction process again, this time, taking more time at each stage.

Answer 5

its a cat thing. cats arent like dogs and warm up easy they are stubborn minded and when u bring something new in the home they get jealous. so it will take some time just try and play with both at the same time and get them used to each other or get a string and dangle a mouse on it so they both go after it, or try catnip, some cats dont like ti till they are about 6 months but i have had kittens go crazy after it at less than 2 months old. i hope they become friends :) and good luck i love kitties!!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Older cats find kittens very annoying. I'm glad he wants to play with her sometimes. Kittens want to play ALL the time so it is just too much for him right now. Make sure he is not bugged when he is in his favorite sleeping place, don't expect him to share a litterbox or food dish with her and be sure he gets some attention too.

They will adjust in time.

Answer 8

Yes he's just an old grouch! When I took home one of my Dad's cats (he was moving) it took George the cat 1 year to even play with my cat Bagherra! They only ever played when no one was looking (or they thought no one was looking...) When the kitten gets older and calmer he may spend more time with her. Just think how annoying bratty little kids get, especially if you had the house to yourself... My cats don't fight, they don't really play either, they just respect each other and have their own places where they sleep and they accually take turns eating.

Answer 9

I had the same problem about a week ago. Your older cat is just trying to be dominant. It was his house first. It's not that he doesn't like her. You have to let them get to know each other. I tried to force my older female cat to play with my new kitten but that just made it worse. Show your older cat that you still love him and that he is not being replaced.

Answer 10

its hard bringing a kitten into the mix with an older cat. the elder, is used to 'his territory' and being the alpha cat, and so forth. you have to be patient. cats are very territorial. just dont stop giving him attention, extra would help right now. show him hes not being replaced. if the baby is in his sleeping spot, move her out, and let him know its still his home. dont play with the kitten with his toys either, hell get jealous. just try to keep things mellow. if you do anything to make hime to jealous, he will end up resenting the new kitten and they will probably never end up getting along.
how i got my cats to play, or get closer, id play with him, with his favorite toy, and of course the kitten was eyeing it, getting closer. when they got within a foot of each other, i just moved outta the way. they got to sniffing and then she tackled him, and he ran off. then i started to feed them the gourmet whiskas wet food at dinner. i started out with 2 plates. gradually moved them closer. then they were eating out of the same plate. now its a habit. i get home from work and they both run to their food, meowing, knowing its dinner time. there are soo many ways to 'trick' them, or get around it, but you mainly have to worry about the jealousy issue, and dont let him forget it was his house first.