what do you do when your partner puts his hobbies before you?

Question

its nothing wrong with having a hobby. what if your partner was off doing his hobby almost every weekend and when he wasnt doing that he was working. so where is the time for you? i talked to him about this and it does no good. what would you do?

Answer 1

I have a Friend with the same problem. Her Husband always went hunting with His Dad when He was younger, and has continued the tradition. He devotes 80% to hunting and 20% to His Family, and that is being very generous. He took the Children when they were in Their teens. He says that They are welcome to come with Him. But She could not stand the site of beautiful deer being killed. They are at the brink of divorce. It seemed to be just fine as long as She went along with it. Now that She has spoken up, Houston we have a problem. It breaks My heart to see Her so sad over this. He tells Her She can go anywhere She wants to, but Woman can not get away as readily as Men. We go places when We can, but He would have to stay home for Years and years for Her to catch up the time He has been gone. Besides, She would like to spend time with Her Husband. She wishes now that She had put Her foot down YEARS ago. Don't let Yours go that long. Yes it is good to have a hobby, but not to excess. It is funny She tells Him that actually They both like doing the same thing. Going to a beautiful place in the Country, gorgeous scenery, by flowing water, enjoying peace and quiet. The only difference is that She doesn't feel the need to kill something at the end of Her tranquility.

Best of Luck with this.....

Answer 2

If you cant beat him join him, why not take up his hobby with him. Or find one that you can do without him like salsa dancing, am sure if all else fails you Willl meet someone there who enjoys the same thing.
Make him want to spend the time with you, get a sexy little number on next time he is about to go off and leave you, put yourself out there for him, I bet he will forget that hobby and stay with you, but if he doesn't then leave and find someone who wil appreciate you.

Answer 3

You find hobbies of your own to do. I had to do the same. Try and get your partner to understand that you do need some of his time in order to keep your relationship happy and healthy. My spouse and I made an agreement. One weekend we do something that I want. The next weekend, it's his choice. The third one....we can do our own thing. It doesn't always work out as other life issues come up. But, it's something to work on. It has helped us out greatly.

Answer 4

How should every girl be treated
As if without her you're not completed
And when her world is rocked with emotion
She should feel our unswaying devotion
And when she wants more and more
Still we'll hold that open door
And when her world is coming apart
She will know she still has our heart

I hope this get's the attention of the right girl so she will contact me too.

Answer 5

Get your own hobby or learn his hobby and join him. I try to get me wife interested in mine but she doesn't want to learn. However, she doesn't mind me being gone every weekend doing it.

Answer 6

hmmmm then find yourself a hobby us human being love to do different things but dont let him get too comfortable
make sure u let him know u want to spent time with him

do it now or else he will get into a phase that he will not get out off

good luck

Answer 7

Give him an ultimatum. He needs to balance his love for the hobby and his love for you!

Answer 8

Does his hobby interest you? Maybe this is something you could do together

Answer 9

I would move on; if you're not happy being #2, #3, or lower down his list of 'projects' in his life, then leave - he's not going to change just for you.

Answer 10

The only thing that you can do is confront him.
Is what you are playing at more important than us being together?
Can you set some time limits on it?
If he can't, he is more into that than you.