how do i tell the kids they have a half brother?

Question

I have to tell my children 10 and 8 they have a half brother who is 9 ( a result of an affair) .. what do i tell them as they are too young to understand an affair and i have forgiven their dad we will be having this child on a regular access visits i dont want to tell them he was a mistake either as it was not the childs fault he was born into this whole messy situation

Answer 1

i'm on the other end of your situation. my 6 year old will be meeting his father and 2 brothers for the first time very soon. you don't have to tell them about the affair right now that will come when they are older. the main thing is they will want to know why they didn't meet him sooner. put yourself in thier shoes, what would you want to know and how would you be answered. make them feel comfortable let them know you want them to ask. just be as honest as you can.

Answer 2

i can help yopu i have 1 child and boyfriend has 2 from his first wife,they are divorced and they come visit often we have told my daughter this and she was very understanding and actually happy she has a 1/2 brother and sister.tell the kids you maybe surprised at there reaction at first but they will relize that mistakes happen but children were not asked to be brought into the world they are a blessing from above.treat all the kids the same dont favor one over the other

Answer 3

Dad had a friend and they had a baby together.
Now the boy would like to visit with dad and meet them. No need to go into details too much at this time the kids are not stupid they will work out what has happened with time.When or if they start to ask the more difficult questions you will have less explaining to do. Trust your kids.

Answer 4

Tell them that he's the parent's child and that you're taking him in for awhile. Simple, limited explination. Later, as they are able, explain it.

Answer 5

Just tell them, If you keep it to long your kids won't forgive you.