I am 28 and so is my partner. I am at uni fulltime and he is trying to make a living as an artist whilst signing on. I have waited five years for a sign of committment such as engagment ring and even asked him if we could move in together and I would pay the bilkls, but he said no, not until he makes money at his art, which could be 5 or 10 years, he has already tried for 9 years .Having children are not in our future also until he makes money. I suggested he gets a pt job, but he said he is never going to work again for anybody else. I qualify soon into a very good career and am looking at buying a house with no support, any advice??
2006-11-22 01:58:53 · 12 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's stalling. If he can't commit to you after five years then maybe there's something other than his art going on. Don't waste your life on a guy who can't give you what you need. You'll regret wasting all those years with him.
2006-11-22 02:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
D@mn, but you are thick as a plank. If he didn't offer to have and to hold until death do you part sometime before the three-year mark, he is never going to. You have two options - keep hoping until you are 64, or drop him now and start rebuilding your life.
Van Gough only sold one painting in his life, so every artist after him thinks that unpopularity is a mark of genius. For every Van Gough there are ten thousand "artists" who are not very good. After 9 years he should be selling accurate, workman-like, if un-inspired pictures of pretty things (golf courses, flowers, dogs, horses, cottages, sea scapes . . .) to people who don't know art but know what they like. If he can't do that, he is going to stay on the dole forever.
The chances of you two celebrating a 25th wedding anniversary do not look good.
2006-11-22 02:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lay it all out in front of him. Show him what you are capable of, and tell him you want a partner that is ready to move onto the next step, and without money, and a steady income that proves difficult. Artzy people are strange, and he may not understand your need for consistancy, but maybe opening his eyes to your perspective will help.
2006-11-22 02:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Laura B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together for 5 years and there's still no sign of commitment, it's most likely not going to happen. You need to decide if you would be happy for the rest of your life with things as they are with him. If not, then get out now and find someone who has his crap together and knows for sure that you're the one.
2006-11-22 02:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Yoshimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i give u a lot of credit... but the only reason why he probably acting like this is because he does not want to be dependent on u he feels like he should be takin care of u...go0d things happen to those who wait so obviously u love him and support him and u knoe he will appreciate more once he does become a success
2006-11-22 02:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new man,your biological clock will soon start ticking,if you want to move in with me and pay my bills feel free, I'll even get you pregnant.
2006-11-22 02:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have to make a tough decision soon. For your bf in life you always work for somebody no matter what your profession is.
2006-11-22 04:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks its time to move on from him .... he doesn't sound like a good bf ..... go find someone who will take care of you and support you the right way
2006-11-22 02:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you love ur man, i think he is temp. blinded by pride, i hope thinks work out for him as well as yourself, just keep hinting he could be making money while waiting on his dream!
2006-11-22 02:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by collegechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a bum.....find a good man, or you'll regret it for the rest of your life
2006-11-22 02:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋