I have a gf that has a problem with me talking to a female friend on the phone. Here’s the story…… my gf had this male friend that she would talk to and go over his house from time to time and at the time, was not talking to my female friend. But now my gf’s male friend does not show the same attention that she was used to in the past. He pretty much stops calling her. That is not the problem the problem is that she does not want me to talk to my female friend mainly because me and the friend were SEXUALLY involved in the past o.k. that bad right…. for me to talk to my female friend but when I was involved with my friend, she was SEXUALLY involved with my god-sister…… so in a nut shell she does not want me to talk to my female friend but I will and have allowed her to talk to her male friend that she was never sexually involved with … last night I deleted all the female friends contacts out my phone, today will be dropping my facebook account. I ask her to do the same but she does not want to. So whatcha you have to say about that.
2006-11-22 01:33:33 · 12 answers · asked by c b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps she cheated on twice with her ex-sexbuddy
I on the other I have not
2006-11-22 01:33:49 · update #1
i on the other hand have not
2006-11-22 01:34:51 · update #2
well, i think your girl is just using you and thinks that she has a control over you and she could do anything but not you. Talk to her and tell her that the relationship should be an equal 'give and take' and not only you give and she take. If she still insist on what she has been doing, then i dont think she is the right one for you.
2006-11-22 01:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Can you say "Control Freak"? First off its unbelievably hypocritical for her to try to force you to get rid of your female friends while she keeps male ones. Secondly, (and I hate to be the one to break this to you) it sounds like her "male friend" was another boyfriend who either got sick of her being with multiple guys and dumped her, or just got sick of HER and dumped her.
However that's not the biggest problem here honey...they BIG problem is you...that's right...YOU....This girl demonstrates CLASSIC cheating behavior, you ADMIT she's cheated on you in the past, and YOU delete all your female friends from your phone? YOU'RE the one deleting your "facebook account"? You're clearly bending over backwards to prove you can be trusted to a girl who has proved that she cannot....why are you so willing to take this crap? Do you think it'll change anything? As soon as she finds another guy "friend" you'll be back in the same situation, except this time you won't have any friends to turn to. Please get a clue and get rid of this chick.
2006-11-22 09:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by eXie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you would have a good argument but this is more tit for tat than anything else. do you really want to be in good with your gf, and why are you still talking to the lady friend on the phone? is it vicarious; is she telling you about stuff that she does with other guys because the fact that you were with her in the past sort of makes it ok to talk to you as a friend about those type of things. perhaps you're not really over your friend to begin with.
now the fact that you state that it is "not the problem" for you may be a real issue with her. you don't know what your gf is, or was, getting out of talking to that male friend of yours, and i suspect it's a lot more than you're willing to accept because if he has cut her off as quickly as he did it could only mean one of a few things.
a.) she was getting too close for comfort and he ended it out of respect for you
b.) she was getting too close for comfort and he ended it because of some other gf he was interested in
c.) she was getting too close for comfort and he ended it, not that he wanted to, but his gf was starting to have a problem with it
i seriously doubt that he had that much of an issue about it to begin with, so something must have changed, with respect of whatever chemistry they once had as friends, so someone pushed the issue, and someone else reacted negatively and the other pulled back. you're too wraped up in your own issues with your percieved right to talk to your "friend" that you're neglecting the true issue at hand. if you're not, or will not, eventually support your gf and the hurt she's experiencing over this friendship with this other guy you may loose her to begin with.
2006-11-22 09:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. If you get all the women friends out of your life, then she should let her male friends go. Sounds like her male friend is her back up plan if your relationship fails. If she was serious about your relationship with her, then she shouldn't have a back up plan. It doesn't look too good for you and her. Sorry.
2006-11-22 09:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not drop your friends because they will be there before and after you have a girl friend that was your first mistake and your second mistake was not coming to an agreement in the first place with your girl friend.
2006-11-22 09:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by Murders Princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to her that a relationship is a JOINT effort. If this is causing fights, its obviously a pretty big deal. Its not fair that you should make the effort to stop talking to your female friends, and let her continue to talk to her male friends. Let her know that this bothers you and that you will continue to talk to your gal friend until she makes an effort also.
2006-11-22 09:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a winner!
2006-11-22 09:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by A.C.Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you go back to your cousin's roommate best friend's mom's daughter's best friend sex buddy...
anyways dump the champ and find another person who can be fair to you.
2006-11-22 09:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my goodness gracious that is too much drama
2006-11-22 09:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should keep your friends too! sounds like she's playing you.
2006-11-22 09:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋