I am a 30 year old guy
and she is 45, we work in the same office and hang out at work alot. We both are going thru divorces.
we like each other, we talk about going out but never do
what do you guys think ?
would this work? or is it just a phase were going thru?
2006-11-22 01:31:36 · 12 answers · asked by alooz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, for you guys the age difference isn't bad.....but i would think twice about dating someone i worked with....it could be a disaster.
2006-11-22 01:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This early in a seperation for the both of you, is just a phase. You both are re-establishing a support system. You both have found a connective aspect in sharing the same problem. I do think that once you have made it past the 6 month mark after divorce, you will find you will undergo a change again, and it may not be compatible with your new friend, as she will go through her own changes. But that fact that you found someone to connect with while going through a tuff spot is good. How it plays out is in each of yours ball park. I would no tbe concerned about getting serious, but on the other hand, see what it is she wants. You dont want to do the rebound thing if you both like eachother more than either has admitted so far. Age is not an issue!
2006-11-22 01:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let age be an issue at all, but from what you said, you need to be cautious. Both of you are going through a divorce and frequently people will mistake the attention, comfort and compassion for love when they are going through a divorce. You have not dated to this point and I recommend you don't. Tell her that you would love to date her, but ask her if she will hold off until you are both divorced because you do not want to confuse the two. Be friends and hang out, but keep it there until you both are available, both emotionally and legally...
2006-11-22 01:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it what you want, both going thur divorces. A fling is o.k. I got a divorce @ 35, 15 years ago and dated a woman who was 50 and very attractive. Ran into her a few months ago and now I'm 50 and still in good shape, well she is 65 and brother I am glad I did not get serious
2006-11-22 01:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear i know of the emotional tremor you are going through. i too had had to be so close with someone of the opposit sex and the relationship all ended in a mess. we never had sex we got to talk and chat about socail life and other things concerning our attachment to each other. the more we spent time in the business place the more we became aqiunted to each other and never dream of missing each other. he is older than i am by about 7yrs but what i want to make you know is that when you are so attached to some one or the opposite sex be it big or smallyou easilly get emotionally attached to. but it is not good to date a woman who is older than you. though she shows you love, you need to understand that women are subject to wear and tear and so if you get marry to her you may in future come to realise that she is getting older than you and look more likely like your mother. naturally your love for her will soon begin to deminish. so just try to reduce your intimacy with her. you also know wemen are so seductive, being at that age and not having a husband she might want to entice u by all ways possible. so take care don't bear the rist when it is too late. marraige is a long life union so look for somebody who u love and will live to love. not somebody u will come to dishor because of age. if the age difference was only about two i will advice that u can go on with the relationship but now the age difference is too much so take care. have a good night rest and think over the situation. think of what attracted you to be very close to her. - is it her way of dressing is it her manner of talk is it her money.is it her love it it her structure if you got to think of all of this then i wish you the best desion to stand on.
2006-11-22 02:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are both going through a divorce I wouldn't be expecting any long term commitment with her - but I would say sure - go out have fun and just see how long the relationship can go
2006-11-22 01:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mad Marvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with dating her and even having sex with her. However, given that you are both going thru divorces don't expect anything long term to develop.
2006-11-22 01:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by evilbarrister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I dont see anything wrong...I am in my mid 30's and date men in there 40-50's. If you never tried it....don't knock it unless you have tried it...Good Luck!
2006-11-22 01:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be a phase... or it might not... but dont date an oldr woman, she's already old enough...
2006-11-22 01:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by flee1906 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude thats wrong
2006-11-22 01:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bar19one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋