I'm having some big relationship issues can anybody lend a hand?

Question

so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 11months to date and we're both seniors in highschool...we've been getting into little stupid fights now for the past few months and they go off and on every couple of days...we've been trying to fix it and have found some temporary solutions but only seem to act as bandaids to stop it shortly ....

..to make matters worse we've both been accepted to colleges already and they are unfortuantly 2hours apart..so thats not making matters any better..

...any ideas or suggestions on what to do to make this work

Answer 1

You both need to change something about yourselves and learn to COMPROMISE. And don't take things so personally. It's easy once we get to know someone to think they are doing things on purpose, but we have to remember that they get it from us, too. Just relax with each other, get back to enjoying each other and if it is supposed to work, it surely will.

Answer 2

most relationships go through this stage its the stage before you get into a routine and become comfortable with each other it does happen to a certain extent in all relationships sometimes faster in other some take years to develop through the stages...
Do you have some time apart do you do thing with your own friends on your own and with her? If you dont you shoudl its good to take time out then come back and talk about stuff its also good to not leave it each other out..
Silly fights like these mainly develop through lack of communication a certain amount of jealousy..
You both need to decide what u want it may as well be make or break if u have both been accepted to different uni's...
That sounds harsh but its not meant to be u shouldnt stop each other doing what u need to do to get on in life uni is going to be really the best times and the most important in your lives..
Its great if u work through these and share them togther but u will be leaving each othe rout so much it will be under alot more strain when ur living 2 hours apart..
Youve obviously sat down and discussed your problems to date which is really good communication and trust is key..
Keep on for the time being see how it goes but dont make each other upset if u end on bad terms its harder..
than getting out whilst its still good and u can stay friends

Answer 3

No relationship is truly perfect. Just think, you are young now and in a few years or days you will begin to discover new things about yourself. First things first you two need to grow up. No relationship can make it without true compromise. So if your solutions are only bandaides then I would have to say that there wasn't real compromise or dedication to your solution. There is no answer really to your delimma. I have heard relationships work with high school sweethearts. What you have to ask yourself is are you ready for that type of dedication, responsibility, and hard work this early in your dating life? Once you answer that then you will have your answer.

Answer 4

I think there is always behind fights an issue : lack of communication, missing each other , you or her are demanding something from each other and can't get it.
A long distance relationship requires more effort that a short distance one, I will recommend you to find why are you guys really fighting for ?and is it worth it?. This requires a sincere and open conversation about each others expectations and needs .
After this you things will / should be pretty clear and you and her will know what to do.

Good luck

Answer 5

You really need to sit down and talk through you differences and concerns. Maybe the thought of a long distance relationship is causing most of the problems, maybe it is time to go your separate ways, or maybe you just need to find out what is bothering each other without arguing so you can resolve the issues. No matter the cause: communication is important.

Answer 6

Iam not saying do it but may be just may be you to should spen some time apart just for a couple of days try a weekend or two just come to a agreement that you two will not see other people you just need a break from each other for a while.

Answer 7

the question is do you see yourself with this person in the near future?? Relationship is about compromise and sacrifices to attain one's goal together...you guys are a bit young to understand that...unfortunately for you and your gf...things are just gonna get more challenging...if this is your true love...then you will have to adjust and make changes in your life as well as your gf's life to have a future together...i hate to tell you this but the way things are going...your relationship wont last more than 1 yr into your college years...as you grow and mature..you will realize ...relationship is more than sex...talking on the phone for hours...arguing and fighting over petty things...it takes committment and understanding to make a relationship work...with time you will gain wisdom...but not without sorrow....enjoy the time you share with your gf...instead of fighting ...so when you are truly ready to stay together or part ways for the better...you will not have any regrets....good luck!!!

Answer 8

The best thing is go on to your colleges you were accepted to, talk about your visits you will have and take turns going to see each other. Talk daily. I bet the absence is going to make the heart grow fonder. You won't know til you try if you love each other, you will love each other on down the road. Good luck to you both.

Answer 9

Have to sat down and spoke about the reasons your doing this? you should really have a big talk, people have arguements doesnt mean alot most of the time. We all bicker now and then.

Answer 10

you both are maturing and going different ways with different life goals. This is normal. Just be nice to her and try not to fight about things that are not worth fighting about.