I have to back to work now that my maternity leave is up. I really do not want to but we need the money to live. My husband refuses to help me out at home and I have to work nights which means that he will be in charge for all the things I did at night. How do I get him to get into a routine where he will actually do these things HELP
2006-11-22 01:23:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I kind of had the same situation with my husband he didn't help out and said that i was home all day and that i should do it, until he actually stayed home with the kid and realized that it was much harder than he thought! so maybe try having him stay with your child and don't forget to tell him that you probably get have the sleep he does! good luck to you!
2006-11-22 03:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so I admit, I'm a guy, and perhaps don't see eye to eye that certain things you did actually need to be done. But perhaps if you share a dialogue with your husband about what you'll no longer have time to do around the home because of having to go out and work, he might just take up the slack without any nagging whatsoever. If it's a matter of parenting make sure you yank his chain real good if he's been failing in that department before you consider leaving the children in his care.
2006-11-22 09:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by thellord_thighgod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he won't let you help him by showing him what needs to be done, then let him learn the hard way! Take a good step back and leave him to figure it out for himself - it's the best way for him to find his own routine! ( but obviously make sure he does everything he's meant to - just don't do it for him)
2006-11-22 10:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he won't help around the house that you will not be able to go back to work and that HE will have to go out and find a 2nd job. I recently started working graveyard shift so my husband can be home to care for our son and he gives him his bath after dinner and gets him ready for bed so I can rest before going to work.
2006-11-22 09:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He refuese to help you? Does he ask you to do certain things for him? Next time, do as I did...lifted my bangs, and asked "Do you see SLAVE written acoss my forehead???" My husband got so picky about how his clothes were washed and folded and put away....he know does them himself. Do NOT become a slave to ANY man!!! Life is too short...and you are worth more than being treated that way. You have to love yourself before anyone else can.
BTW...I also did that to a doctor once who was questioning my knowledge. I said to him "I may not have M.D. behind my name...but do you see stupid written across my forehead??" He buckled to MY demands!!! And it proved to be the best thing(this was for my ailing mother.)
2006-11-22 10:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to work this out is to talk to your husband.
You have a child now--he has to help!
2006-11-22 10:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cassandra K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not stay with a man that refuses to take care of the home.
2006-11-22 09:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just talk to him. a lot of times, my husband will just sit there on the couch and I have to tell him what I would like for him to do. dont be mean about it just ask him nicely.
2006-11-22 09:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by yensenm 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Write a timetable for him (5.30 bath ("do not leave unattended"), 6pm feed (with instructions for feed), 7pm nap). Leave it on the fridge. He will pretend he doesn't need it.......but bet ya it is his bible as soon as you leave the house.
2006-11-22 09:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by missluly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
show him what needs to be done and write a list so he dont forget
2006-11-22 09:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Victoria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋