i knw a boy frm 2 years hes my best friend n a family frend 2...i dunno when i fell in love with him...hel already commited at this time...but his gf is a big problem for all....shezz very irritating...every1 dislikes her all v friends...even he getts very irritated by her...bt he cant leave her casue she keeps on threatning that she will tell his family about them...n if that happens then its gonna b a big scene...i loev him...n he knws tht 2....bt vr still...best frnds....i dunno wht 2 do...v r very close 2 each other...bt i dunno wht should b done of r relationship....wht do i do ppl???
2006-11-22 01:18:26 · 9 answers · asked by rocking s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The solution here is easier said than done.
Tell the guy that he needs to tell his family about this girl. Tell him to tell his family that he is with this girl, he made a mistake, he learned from it, and now he is ending the relationship.
That way he 'beats her to the punch' and she has nothing to hold over his head.
During the course of all of this, you don't want to seem like you're taking advantage of someone on the rebound, so instead BE THERE for him throughout the entire process. He'll appreciate that from you. After that, the two of you can go out as friends a couple of times, and during the course of normal conversation, ease it in there somewhere that you're glad that he isn't with the other girl anymore. Then tell him that he needs a girl like you. After you say that, pay very close attention to his reaction. His reaction will tell you if he's ready to hear you say that you love him or not.
2006-11-22 01:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get into a relationship with him because he's with someone else. You might love him, but he's with someone else and getting with him will not only affect both of you but his girlfriend also. Even though she's "irritating", that doesn't validate hurting her. If he wants to be with you then he'll leave her and deal with what happens, then both of you can work from there. I know that I'm not fully knowledgeable about what will happen if his parents found out about them, but if he wants to be in a relationship, he has to act like a man and realize that everything he does has consequences. Continue to be a good friend, but by no means should you enter into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship until he's without a girlfriend.
2006-11-22 01:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit back and let things work themselves out. he has to get rid of the other girl first before there can be anything between the two of you. you say he knows how you feel so thats enough for now and just curious, why would it be a big deal if his family knew about him and the girl?
2006-11-22 01:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by yensenm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he knows u love him then you need to go to him and flat out say "I LOVE YOU AND WANT OT BEWITH YOU!!" this may sounds forward or w/e but i went to my bf, before we were dating, and sat and talked to him for hours and then i just flat out said "i love you" he was shocked and things werent going to good, he didn say it back just looked shocked. then the next night he told me he wouldnt say i love you to some1 till he meant it, and i understand that, then a few hours later we were laying together watching a movie and he leaned into my ear and said "i love you" and kissed me on the forehead. and since then we have been together 3 years and still happily in love. so just tell him how u want it to be, no man can resist! lol i hope this works for you and i hope you guys get together and stay happy!!
2006-11-22 01:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it his family doesn't necessarily approve of the arrangement. go ahead and tell him and see how he reacts to it; if nothing happens then you know where you stand but at least you're not stuck wondering what if. it isn't really about what she wants if they're not on the same page anyway ...
2006-11-22 01:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he already knows it AND he has a girlfriend. You have to wait until he's single and then make your move. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 01:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start a conversation with the guy and if you feel the conversation is going right tell him how you feel and if he understands and likes you too he might ask you out or you could ask him out..
2006-11-22 01:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by candy_18_17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as he has a girlfriend there is nothing you can do --- if he does not want to be with her -- he can ignore the threat and dump her -- he choses to stay with her
2006-11-22 01:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to tell the family first it is better to here it from him......
2006-11-22 01:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋