so my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now....and lately we have been fighting ALOT....over really stupid things....even our friends have been noticing it and alot of people dont wanna hang out with us anymore because they dont wanna listen to the bickering....we get along really well when we are alone....what should i do?....is it time to end it?.....how can i stop the stupid fights?
2006-11-22 00:57:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it. He might be feeling the same way. See if there is a pattern, are you fighting about similar things everytime? Try to resolve this issue.
2006-11-22 00:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by sassy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are to blame and neither or both of you are willing to solve the problem, you need to break up. If you are to blame and don't realize it, you will solve nothing until you determine why you two fight. If you are prone to fighting about stupid things, you'll just fight with someone else. If he is to blame and doesn't want to solve the problem or doesn't think he is the problem, move on! I've got these two friends (he's 45, she's 54). They have issues. They break up about 1 week out of 4. She boo-hoos, he waits until she calls him. They've been doing this for years and we're all getting sick of them.
2006-11-22 09:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "you get along really well when you're alone". So, when do you normally fight over those stupid things. Does it mean you only fight when people are around?. If yes, I'll advise you to do away with some people you call friends cos they seem to be "unfriendly friends". Think about it and let me have your opinion as you contact me through my profile now. cya.
2006-11-22 09:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you and him show off to others when you argue or deep down your both insecure when other people are around you both then you both start to argue together because you hate it when others talk to him and others look at you. If you expect this relationship to get better in the public you both have to have a talk before you go out and agree that you will go out to have a good time.. In the mean time try communicating more so you will both understand one anothers needs.
2006-11-22 09:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you end it if you get along really well when you're alone? You probably just need to sit down and talk about what sparks the argument when you're around other people. If it's something you can change, then you've solved your problem...if not, then consider breaking things off.
2006-11-22 09:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the issues are stupid then there is not need for you fighting .. If u cant find a common ground to work it out time to get packing.
2006-11-22 09:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I let my ego get in the way when my wife and I are in public. I try to keep it in check by remembering that listening comes before speaking. Even after 16 years of marriage, we still bump heads(softly). All honest relationships are going to have spats. Without them, someones sandbagging. "Put ears in gear before engaging mouth". Good luck.
2006-11-22 09:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by dog55902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and find out WHY you are fighting --- if you cant come to an agreement then maybe you should call it a day
2006-11-22 09:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to workthings out and talk about it... fighting about stuff never helps.... if he doesnt listen then maybe hes not really a great bf...
2006-11-22 08:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't pay attention on the stupid things.. BOTH OF YOU
2006-11-22 09:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Becka L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋