A guy has been asking me out but I have said no cos he 's got a GF, we have agreed to be friends but he wants me to meet up with him tonight, shall I go as a mate or will he expect something more?
2006-11-22 00:41:46 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so you know I wouldnt steal another girls BF, and I have made it clear that I dont want a relationship with somebody whos taken, He reckons he is going to finish it with her but I still wouldnt have a relationship with him, but on the other hand he is a great mate and good company.
2006-11-22 02:23:53 · update #1
DONT DO IT GIRL!!!!!!...... This guy has got a girlfriend, who he is in a serious relationship with and he is wanting to meet up with you, which will obviousley be kept secret from his girlfriend.... NO WAY.... dont get involved. It will only end in trouble!!
It is clear no matter what he sais, is that he WILL want more than be just friends. These situations arise all the time and the best advice any1 could ever tell u would be... STEER CLEAR!!! U seem sweet and nice.... come and go ona date with me instead :-) xx
2006-11-22 02:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should go. He doesn't seem a particularly nice person if he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend. If you did start a relationship with him, how would you ever trust him? Just be friends and nothing more and don't put yourself in a position where he can try to persuade you otherwise. Also, try to think how his girlfriend would feel. She probably has no idea he's asking you out and she may well be devastated if she finds out. If he's not happy with his girlfriend then he should be honest with her and end it. I would advise you not to get involved and find some nice single guy who is more trustworthy!
Good luck!
2006-11-22 00:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u hav a bf and u found out that he's asking another girl out, how wud u feel about that?
if u hav feelings for this guy other than just being friends, then u now that things might not turn up the right way. but if u do feel that he's just a friend, then there's nothing wrong with that. he's a guy, def he'l expect sumthing. unless u tel him straight up in the face tht ur just friends... good luck!
2006-11-22 00:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by no way! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't and you are right to have had your reservations-and respect that he has a girlfriend.
I would not meet with him, on the principle that he might accuse you later on of leading him on. I would text him, or call him and explain that if he wants to meet up with you or date you then he would need to be single as you don't want to hurt anyone- and that if he is unhappy with his girlfriend he should tell her now as prolonging things will hurt her more.
If you have already agreed to meet, then I would keep my distance. Talk as friends and don't stay out too long. Make it clear that you have other things in your life and that you can't wait around while he decides which girl he wants!
2006-11-22 00:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!! Do NOT go. Yes he will expect more. You need to be the bigger person here and do what is right. You said he has a g/f, so do not go. How would you like it if you had a b/f and he pulled this crap on you? I do not even think he is being a real friend to you, he just wants in your pants.
2006-11-22 00:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants something more, you know that !!
You could be just friends but you need to tell him that clearly, and also check with his girlfriend that she has no objections to you both meeting! Cos imagine how you'd feel if he was your boyfriend meeting another girl claiming to be 'just friends'
2006-11-22 00:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by b7jac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He is not free to start a relationship. Tell him that once he's single you'll gladly go out with him until then you won't!
You are kidding yourself if you think he wants to see you tonight as "just a mate"
Talk about wanting to have your cake and eat it too?!...
2006-11-22 00:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by LadyTraveller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's just asking for trouble. If he has a GF, you are liable to end up in a tangle that will be difficult to fix.
You may end up getting hurt, and so will his GF. Sounds like he's trying to play you.
I'm sure you already know this anyway...
2006-11-22 00:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by gio 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not go and if it looks like he is after more then leave - if he can cheat on his g/f then he can definitely cheat on you - I mean - he supposidly loves her - right?
so - go as a mate - you could be worrying about nothing - but if its heading down the route of "wanting more" then get the heck of out he situation....
2006-11-22 00:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but it sounds like he wants to meet up to do abit more than talk, i wouldnt trust him as he has got a girlfriend and it could cause you alot of trouble if word gets round x
2006-11-22 00:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by megz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋