My mother is having Thanksgiving at her house. I told her let me know what she wants me to bring and have called her as she never gave me an answer. She doesn't answer her phone or return my calls. She's always telling me, "You should do this, you should do that, if I were you I would do this and that" My brother belittles me about my personal life, I told him to stop but he continues to do this. I am divorced from an abusive ex and my brother thinks I should get back together with him. I don't hear from my other siblings, we're not close at all. I feel like staying home, turning off my phone and just be by myself. I'm tired, I'm tired of everything and just want to move away sometimes.
What would you do? How would you feel?
2006-11-22 00:33:54 · 18 answers · asked by blue_persuasion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well if you dont want to go...then dont go! I wouldnt blame you at all for not wanting to be around these negative people. Go to a shelter and help them serve Thanksgiving dinner and feel good about yourself. And if they want to know why you didnt show up then tell them. You cant change other peoples behaviour..just your own. Life is too short not to do what you want to do girl....they will survive you not being there...and they might respect you more for it. Have a HAPPY Thanksgiving.
2006-11-22 00:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't care enough to even answer your calls, don't go to their house for a "celebration." Do something fun, instead. You don't need to spend the day being belittled and told what to do. Find another friend who might be alone and have a Thanksgiving of your own, even if it's Big Macs shaped like turkeys. It's also a good time to see a movie. If you want to go out and see a funny one, I'd recommend Flushed Away.
2006-11-22 08:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well family will always be family. You can try to repair your relationship with your siblings.Tell them how you feel dont hold it in until it to late to let them know.Our parents and siblings wants what they think is best for us. You have to live your life. You cant let them live you life .Being in an abusive relation has to take a toll on your mind,body and soul.I am so sorry they cant see that you arent happy in the relationship.You need to get up and go out it doesnt have to be at your mothers house you can alway go over to a friends.
2006-11-22 08:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy!! I was born in your shoes. Now this is what you do. First of all do not go to those peoples house! (talking about your family). Secondly you go to the store and buy a small turkey some stuffing that's just bread crumbs , celery, raw eggs melted butter and sage oh and onion,. you can get recipes anywhere, and what you eat isn't really that important, you invite some friends who cant stand their family either, you would be surprised if you only knew how many there are out there. any way cook yourself a nice dinner with or with out other people.if you have kids be sure you smile and play with them. no since in making them miserable. after cooking dinner and setting your table you give thanks to God for what you do have, and you can thank me for reminding you that you don't have to do the family thanksgiving thing, forget about your miserable family they are unhappy with themselves that's why they pick on you. good luck and God bless
2006-11-22 08:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay home, turn off the phone, rent some movies and eat a Swanson frozen turkey dinner. You deserve an enjoyable day.
2006-11-22 08:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your family is treating you poorly, then you have to put your foot down.
Get their undivided attention and let them know what-is-what in no uncertain terms.
If your family doesn't accept your terms, then it's time to find others who do support you.
However, the bottom line is, you need to have a support system in place. Friends you can talk to, that can provide useful and meaningful advice.
Also, perhaps get into counseling.
Your counselor my suggest a group therapy for abused women, as well.
Good luck and don't dwell on the negative.
Find the positive and hold onto it.
2006-11-22 08:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i am 34 not married and have an 11 year old my family comes from the old world and i lost my mother 30 years ago i am the black sheep of the family i invite the family for dinner for the holidays and they always say no my aunt cooks to and has yet to invite me to her house dor the holidays she has seen my daughter once in 11 years.so i say send a fruit basket to your family and treat yourself out to dinner and dont be bothered by not being there you have to do what you feel is right
2006-11-22 10:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by michellemadlinger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, I would just stay home by myself or find out if any of your friends are being alone on thanksgiving and invite them over and have a little dinner of your own....
2006-11-22 09:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by concerned aunt 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay home, turn off the phone, and just be by yourself.
If, down the road, they ask about it, just say, "I never heard back from you."
Watch some football, buy a turkey dinner at the supermarket, and enjoy yourself.
2006-11-22 08:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. You know they wont agree with whatever decision you choose, so stay home & dont answer the phone when THEY call. whats good for the goose is good for the gander (siblings)
Stay home, enjoy the peace & quiet.
2006-11-22 08:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋