How old were you when you had your first child?

Question

Were you married?
Did your family approve?

(if these questions are too personal then I'm sorry to pry and obviously there is no need to answer)
I was just wondering.

I'm 22, have really strong feeling that I am pregnant but need to wait a couple more days before testing. Not sure if my mum or dad will like it though.

Answer 1

I was 39, married, and my family's response was, "About time too!"!

Answer 2

I was 20 when i got pregnant with my daughter. It was a planned pregnancy so maybe a bit different to some circumstances. I wasnt married then but me and my boyfriend had bought a house together and were settled so my mum and dad didnt worry, they just said it was hard work. The rest of my family thought i was mad! but then they said the same when we got the house!
My daughter is a year old now, im 21 and we are married which is nice. I am young for all of this but then i think its all about mental age. If you think you are up to it and are mature enough I cant see your parents will make too much fuss.

Answer 3

I was 22 when I had my son. I was terrified to tell my parents. I was not married when I found out I was pregnant, but we got married shortly after for insurance purposes mostly. We had already been together for 5 years and planned on getting married sometime in the future we just moved up the date. My parents were shocked at first. But then happy ofcourse. They worried that I was too young. My mom had my sister when she was 19 and 21 when she had me so she knows how hard it is. And it is hard believe me! My son is now 6 months old and the best thing that has happened to my husband and myself and our families. Your parents & family love you im sure. So a baby is only going to bring joy to them as well. Don't be scared! They may be in shock at first but that will wear off and the joy will set in. GOOD LUCK. and congrats. Being a parent is the best thing in the world!

Answer 4

The first time I got pregnant I was 19, almost 20 and engaged. Sadly enough I lost this baby. I then got pregnant almost 2 years later we were married for right at 2yrs. and when I gave birth to my son I was 22. Who cares if the family approves, what matters is the child inside of you, you loving the child and the father of the child being there for you and your baby.

Answer 5

I got married at 18 after knowing my husband (boyfriend then) for 2 years. I had a girl at 19, conceived 2 months after getting married and a son at 21. We wasn't really planning for a child but it just happened. I always remember the very first words my mother said when i called her with excitement to tell her i was expecting her 1st grandchild, it still sticks with me to this day, her words were 'oh no!' I have always remembered this through my childrens lives. Then when my daughter was 21 she had a boyfriend of a few months and fell pregnant. We tried to help her decide what to do, no pressure either way, it was what they wanted that mattered, and all the time i remembered what my mom had said to me. It was no use ranting and raving at them because there was no changing what had happened. They decided to keep the baby. He is now 5, 6 in january. He is the most gorgeous precious child, (along with our children). A positive from this, is that because we had our children when we were young, we now have our own lives now to still enjoy. Hope all goes well with you.

Answer 6

I was 20 and was married and now i have a lovely 16 year old daughter and a 12 year son and still married to there dad of 18 years, how old does that make me feel!!!
I suppose my family did approve it took a while to win them round.
ps If you are pregnant i wish you the best of luck and i hope every thing turns out ok.

Answer 7

Hi, i was 26 when i had my daughter. My partner was only 21. We were not married, and 5 years later, were still not married. My family were over the moon. I thought they might be worried due to by man being 5 years younger than me but they were overjoyed that we were having a baby.

I think that as long as you are happy, then it does not matter what other people think. You never know how family will take it, but normally it turns out better than you think it will.

xx

Answer 8

Iwas just 18 and it was back in the 70's.I had to hide the fact that i even had a boyfriend because he was black and my mom and dad went spare when i told them i was pregnant.All thier prejudices came out and boy did i have a tough time.I(we)were forced by my dad to get married as having a child out of wedlock was considered shameful.The marriage did not stand a chance and was over as soon as it started.My son was born amid disaproving glances and the hostilities of those close to me.He was a bit of novelty as the only black child in the family but there was no-one who could not love him.He was and still is absolutely gorgeous and as a young man almost 30 now has been the best thing that ever happened to me......until his sister and brother came along.Now there's another story!!!

Answer 9

Hi

I just turned 21 when i had my first child, i got married at the age of 20

my family really never had any say in the matter, but when u bring a child in to the world, u don't care about what people think u need to be sure for yourself

u are the only one that will love the baby more then anything

Answer 10

I was 19, a week shy from being 20 when I delivered. We were not married then, but we are now. I am currently pregnant with our 2nd. We have been together almost 7 years now and doing well. My moms side approved, my father's didn't. His family was very excited.

Answer 11

I was 22 when I had my first, 21 when I got pregnant. My family thinks you should be in your late 20's so, they did not approve but, oh well. I wanted to have my kids when I was in my 20's so that when they are grown I am still young enough to enjoy life and grandkids. I am not saying have them in your teens but, 20's is good. I have no regrets and I have 4 kids, I had them all before i turned 30.