I am 30 yrs old men (unmarried, never had sex before) I went to a brothel to have sex. I went there 4 times and had 4 girls but never I was able to insert my penis inside. coz its not fully ejaculating. When I am at home I am regularly masturbating watching sex videos at that time mine is fully ejaculating and very strong. So now I am afraid why it is not ejaculating while I am trying to have sex with girls??.. I think I am bit afraid (coz of my mental /cultural beliefs not actually allows pre-marital sex) Do you think after marriage this problem will not affect me? Please send me ur answer it will help me> i expect answers from girls/cuples/and those having the same problem..thank u..
2006-11-22 00:21:24 · 21 answers · asked by Matthew Web 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, I mean ''errecting'' not ejaculating... thanx
2006-11-22 00:50:01 · update #1
I think you mean erect. And yes if you are to nervous or afraid that could happen. If you were more relaxed things might work better for you.
2006-11-22 00:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope that you are using protection with the prostitutes you visit. Otherwise, you are jeopardising your own health and the health of any future girlfriends or wife you might have. I would suggest getting out onto the dating circuit rather than using prostitutes. My reason would be that these women are often broken women, who have no other option than to sell themselves. You are helping a very sad, degrading trade that often leads to funding traffickers bringing young girls over from Eastern Europe and other regions.
Onto your ejaculation problem. I seriously believe, and so will many others that this is due to the fact that subconsciously you know inside that what you are doing is wrong. You need someone loving and attentive to make love to. Even though on your own, behind closed doors, you can ejaculate, with these women- you feel dirty and like you are cheating on any future love interest.
This would suggest to me that you stop visiting this brothel and for the time being satisfy yourself as you have done so far. Why not get enlisted on a dating website, or perhaps your local paper and meet someone who will mean something to you, and with whom sex will be a liberating, exciting, intimate occasion.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 00:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off there is your beliefs, i mean you do have somewhat of a conscious about this thing, which is good it means that you're somewhat human. it may have something to do with the fact that on some level you're not really close to these girls, and it does help to have that there in order for everything to, well, go as planned.
you should have rephrased the question because if you were able to get inside then you could have, finished, most likely. if so, and you weren't, well then that's a good thing for the girls. seriously. focus on being with one person and actually building on a relationship with one person and seeing how that works. leave the other promotional material alone; it may be causing you more problems than what it's worth. but having a goal in mind isn't going to help any whatsoever.
2006-11-22 00:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are defenitely having psychological stress over this matter. I suggest that you try to find a meaningful relationship rather than going to prostitutes. Once you have a girlfriend, take things slow & allow yourself to go through the process of making love at a pace that will allow you to be comfortable enough to have full erections & ejaculations. Even that may take a few sessions of practice.
Good Luck
2006-11-22 00:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean erection not ejaculation my friend.
Your mind is telling you that it is okay to masturbate but not okay to have sex now. You mind is playing games with you not to mention the fact that you are probably looking for something more than sex with woman. You want all the feelings and emotions attached to it. Stop looking at so much porn though.
2006-11-22 00:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you may be suffering from religious guilt?
Are you nervous when you go to these places?
The brain plays a very important part in all this.
Just chill, things will come naturally, if you pardon the pun.
2006-11-22 00:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean erection? Its a mental thing! Just jumping in and having sex with anyone is not doing it for you! You need to have a connection to get a erection! HA!
2006-11-22 00:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to go again,but try to relax this time around.Don;t think bout sex.Just explore and let the girl turn you on till you're ready.All the best!
2006-11-22 00:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is something wrong in your prostate gland. Have it checked up by a doctor...
It think it would not affect your marriage because if you want kids, why not adopt?
2006-11-22 00:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by curious~me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have the money pay the whore extra to go down on you, that should do the trick. if your still unable to get hard then stick to watching porn or else you'll end up wasting your money.
2006-11-22 01:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋