Have been involved with a lady for quite some time. she's great. problem is she doesn't satisfy me. complains that i last so long. should i look somewhere else for satisfaction?
2006-11-22 00:10:13 · 8 answers · asked by jizee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is normal that you last for a long time then it seems that is just the way you are. My lover lasts a long time, but he is very satisfied. He is just a stayer. Orgasm doesnt mean you arent satisfied, but if she really doesnt satisfy you and you really like her then you need to tell her what turns you on. What she can do to make the relationship more exciting. Most women want to satisfy their man and she would probably sense that you are not being satisfied so she may just be relieved if you explained to her what she could do to satisfy you. I dont know what it is with a lot of people....they can talk about the weather, they can talk about what makes them happy and sad. They can talk about when they are angry and/or happy......so why is it so hard to talk about sex...what turns you on, what doesnt. You can do it in a nice way...you dont have to direct it at her. You can just sit down with her one day and have an open discussion about sex in general. You can talk casually about what you enjoy while making love. Maybe you could start the conversation off by asking her where is the sexiest place she has ever made love. Just start a sex conversation with her and then you talk about your experiences. She will pick up on what you like and dislike just by you expressing yourself openly. A lot of women are very adventurous but they think the man may think they are cheap if they act out sexy things. Maybe she is playing it safe because she doesnt want you to think badly about her. Open conversation about sex is a good healthy thing and should not be avoided. If both of you are too afraid to brooch the subject then it will probably always remain the same. If you think a lot of her, then give her a chance. Like I said she may be "holding back" for fear of what you might think of her. Only by talking about it will you know.
Good luck
2006-11-22 00:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically if you're not compatible and you're both not willing compromise on this issue. Then the right thing to do would be to end the relationship and explore new ones.
Cheating on someone will cause many more problems in your relationship then it would solve.
Besides doesn't your girlfriend deserve to find happiness and a boyfriend that doesn't cheat on her. The longer you go out with her and cheat the more you are wasting her time when she could be finding her right match.
2006-11-22 08:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones sex drive is different. You can find ways to make her more interested in having sex with you. Keep her turned onn throughout the session.
If that does not work then something i wrong with her and you need to find someone else.
2006-11-22 08:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try more foreplay that way you will not last so long and then maybe you will both get what you need.
2006-11-22 08:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it over
sex is not the only component of a good relationship
compromise or something
2006-11-22 08:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by globiaeon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone who can satisfied u.
2006-11-22 08:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.Here!
2006-11-22 08:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy with her and she is not happy with you then it's better not to continue.
2006-11-22 08:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by curious~me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋