I'm 17 and my sister past away a while ago.
I feel terrible because I am the only girl left in my family. And whenever I do something wrong, I feel like I'm not meant to be here, and that it's my sister that is meant to be here. And that my parents prefer(ed) my sister to me, and that they dont love me.
It's hard..
2006-11-22 00:05:19 · 12 answers · asked by rockonforeverman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's normal to feel grief after losing someone important to you.
Believe me, your parents love you in a way that you might not realize it.
Find something that will remove your depression. Depression is bad~
2006-11-22 00:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by curious~me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite normal to feel guilt Hon. It's all part of the grieving process. But remember, there is a reason, however difficult it is to understand, why your sister was taken and not you. I too lost someone very close to me a few years back, and would think "Why him, why not me?" etc. etc. It will get easier. Just because your sister is not there anymore, doesn't mean that you are less of a person. You will still make mistakes in life, make your parents angry or disappointed, make them proud and happy. Just be yourself, keep your sisters memory alive, and remember that your parents are grieving too, so be patient with them. I am sure they love you too - probably more so now as you are the only girl left! Yes it is hard - but hang in there! It does get easier to bear as time goes on, even though the pain never goes away. Good luck and stay positive!
2006-11-22 00:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are grieving too. You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel. Its hard I know as I just lost a sister a month ago. Talking helps all of you to know how the other is feeling. You have my condolences on the loss of your sister.
2006-11-22 02:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really sorry to hear that i can't feel the pain u r enduring at the moment and i will not want to advice you just want to say that
life is a sea of sadness and sorrows
but as they say that after every darkness
comes a new ray of light
which make you strong
and fills you with delight!!
may god be with you always
2006-11-22 00:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by sam_arbg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart your parents love you very much but they are still grieving and most of their attention will still be on your sister.
If you told them how you feel I am sure they would be horrified because they do love you.
When someone close to us passes away we all go through different emotions. One of these is guilt. Guilt because we are still here and they are not. It is a natural process although it wont feel like it.
Talk to your parents grieve together they love you.
2006-11-22 00:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop acting like a baby that usually makes people really mad. Also "grow up" is a good thing to say. If you want to say it in a nicer way just talk to her and tell her that its not right for her to treat her mom the way she does and she needs to treat her mom better because her mom does so much for her and she is being ungrateful and disrespectful.
2016-05-22 13:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents do love you. it is uncondtional love. i am sorry about your sister it is hard to loose anybody you love. your parents rather both of you to be here than just one . they cant talk to you about it. b/c they are not ready to except it. you are meant to be here if you werent you would not be here. god as a plan for everybody and your sister was part of his plan and you will see her again. one day hope everything goes well
2006-11-22 00:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by yours truly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should know that your parents love you no matter what! I really think you should talk to them and I feel sure they would want to help you get through this!
2006-11-22 01:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by NIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get some counseling to help you grieve the loss of your sister. I am deeply sorry for your loss...hang in there kid.
2006-11-22 00:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents do love. dont feel left behind
2006-11-22 00:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by balla_boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋