i have been with jimmy for 7 years not been good really, him and my family hate each other, he hates my 15 year old son. he moved out 3 weeks ago, now he has told me he has got a transfer with work to down south, he could be gone within the month!!! we have a four year old daughter who he says loves to bits, how can he leave his daughter? could you?
2006-11-21 23:39:51 · 23 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He may well love his daughter but you say you've been together 7 years which have not been good so, maybe he's thinking about the long term and would rather be an absent loving father than a present one in a less than pleasant scenario. Test of the situation will be if he maintains her and has regular visits and contact. As a mother, I could not have done that but some do from the very best of motives for the well being of the child they have to leave. To be a tad harsh.........I get the impression he is leaving you, not your and his daughter. Sometimes a loving but absent parent is kinder to the child in the long term.
2006-11-23 08:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough, im sorry to hear that. I couldn't leave my kids but there are not many mothers who could. I split from my ex 5 years ago, and its only been the last year he has been having a proper realationship with the kids.
Does he want to keep seeing your daughter? if he does but its only say once a month, then I believe that is better than no contact at all. If he is saying he loves her but never wants to have contact again then thank god he is going!!
Its a tricky situation for you right now...but keep on being the great mum you are to your kids, they dont need anything else x
2006-11-21 23:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by pinkkitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he hates your son,that's enough to leave him alone.you aren't concerned about him leaving your daughter as you are concerned with your self.if he is so immature that he can't manage to get along with your son,perhaps it's good that he goes away for a while,you can't lose some thing or someone that truly belongs to you and you know this.will your child not love you if you were away?then he should love you while away but you know that won't be the case,while he's gone get a life for your self and concentrate on the relationship between you and your kids,that boy of yours will be with you forever when men and lovers come and go, spend time with your boy he's worth every thing to you,he may look at the world with the eyes of a 15 yr.old but you are his eyes in to the future and you will never be sorry for putting his life first,never.
2006-11-21 23:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt leave my child under any circumstances
hes not a decent man if he cant treat ur eldest son the same as your other child and your kids bothe of them are better off without him if your daughter was that important to him he wouldnt leave no matter how much he dislikes the rest of your family
let him go and get on with your life with your kids be happy he will be the looser in the long run
2006-11-22 00:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if things aren't going well with you and him , and he HATES your family and HATES your son you don't need to be with him at all.....because you and your kids are a package deal, if he doesn't like your kids then he doesn't like you......you understand even if you and him has a 4 yr old daughter together SO.......let him move down south...you can do bad by your self.......sometime its good to listen to family !!!!!
2006-11-22 00:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by creamy_delight5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a mother i could not leave my child but for men im not sure my ex says he is moving to norway with his sister but i dont think he will as he loves are son to bits maybe he is just saying it to see you reaction. But if he does go im sure he will still want to see his daughter regually. He should love your son as he is part of you if he doesnt except your son then let him move just make sure he sees his daughter good luck babes xxx i hope it all works out in the end for all of you!!
2006-11-21 23:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no never!
How can he hate you other child!? think your family need some kind of family councelling. he shoulld'nt hate your 15 year old. he might not show it but it could be affecting the 15 year old!
i dont like the sound of this "man" called Jimmy! sorry!
2006-11-21 23:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! EVER! Would I ever leave a 4 year old child. She would be devestated for monthes, maybe even years!! And it could cause problems, what if your husband never lets her come visit you, and she goes on with her life without a mother!! At least move somewhere close!!
2006-11-21 23:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Girly girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a start if any man hated a child of mine he would be gone,my kids come before anything and anyone.If he can turn his back on his child then you are better off without him.I would never leave a child of mine.
2006-11-23 01:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he "hates my 15 year old son", as you say, then be thankful he's gone. What if he suddenly hated your daughter, too???
She, you and your son are all better off with him gone.
2006-11-21 23:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋