im getting married and im scared help me?

Question

im getting married in february next year im really looking forward to it as i want to be with my man for life weve been together for 10 years now and im not shy in front of him thing is im scared of walking down the aisle and saying my vows in front of other people is their anything i can do to calm my nerves without getting drunk please help as i dont want to spoil my wedding day with my nerves

Answer 1

Keep the service to only a small about of people that might help.

And remember to take lots of deep breaths before during and after, oxygen calms you down.

I'm getting married in April next year, too. Not as nervous as you though, good luck.

Answer 2

I got married a year and a half ago and was perfectly calm right up until the moment when the doors opened to the room and I began to walk down the aisle. I hadn't been worried at all even to the point that the registrar commented on it beforehand!
The best advice I can give is to focus on your husband to be and not everyone else. He'll be just as nervous as you, regardless of how long you've been together. It's a momentous day and one to be cherished for the rest of your life.
One thing though, try not to laugh through your vows like I did. Granted it was either that or crying but it looks kind of strange on the dvd!
Good luck and have a fantastic day.

Answer 3

What you have to do right now is stop worrying about it. Just think calm thoughts and remember that everyone at the wedding is there because they love you and they want to see you on your special day. It's okay for you to be nervous every bride is, but what you have to do is keep away from the alcohol until after you say your vows.

You could practice your vows before hand, but while you are walking down the aisle don't think about the other people that are there, just concentrate on your future husband and just keep thinking that soon you are going to be his wife and you just have to say a few words and that will be it. Good luck

Answer 4

Then don't walk down the aisle. What is the point in upsetting yourself. On your wedding day all that matters is you and your husband. I am 52 and got married earlier this year. We went to the local register office where the staff were really good. I had my cousin and his wife as witnesses and that was all we needed.

We then went to a hotel reception for the four of us which was really nice and then we went away for a week and called on friends to tell them what we had done. It was a nice time and I don't regret it. Don't forget you are marrying for yourself and not everyone else. Why not invite everyone to an evening out and the two of you get married in the morning.

Do what you both want but do not do what other people want.

Answer 5

the only advice i can give you is that you and your man have been together for 10 years already so you are very comfortable with him as your walking down the aisle just look at him and think of the wonderful times still to come and when saying your vows just look into his eyes you will find everything you need right there to settle your nerves don't stop looking into his eyes until its over i think that if you don't take your focus off him you won't notice anyone else

Answer 6

Don't get drunk!!!
Discuss this with your doctor, if it's really that bad. Ask your doctor for a valium to take in the morning of your wedding to take the edge off. It won't make you "drunk" or high, it will just calm you down so you can enjoy your day and your vows.

Remember your vows often after you get married, marriage is full of ups and downs. Be strong on your day and throughout your marriage and everything will turn out fine.

Answer 7

Other than getting drinking or popping pills, i don't know how to calm your nerves. If you're comfortable just being with the family and not up in front of everyone you know, think about having a small intimate wedding with just the two of you and immediate family and then having a big reception party with all the friends and family there.. you can have the photographer take the ceremony pictures and set up a slideshow of it to play during the reception...i'm sure anyone not invited to the actual ceremony would understand about not wanting to have to be up in front of a bunch of people! You're marrying HIM not them, the ceremony is for the two of you, the reception is for your guests. Good Luck!

Answer 8

There's nothing scary about walking down the aisle. As far as teh vows go - you could write your own where the officiant does most of the talking, and all you have to do is say "I do" when he asks. Both my husband and I thought we'd be too nervous to say much, so this is how our vows were written, more in the form of a speach from the minister. (We ended up being pretty calm however, I think we could have handled saying something more!) :)

Answer 9

Hi Rebecca - I know just how youre feeling! I got married in August and I had 3 things that were worrying me....Id either burp, fart or faint (or all 3!) in the service and this really freaked me out! But when it came to it, the whole day flashed by and I didnt have the chance to be nervous because I was having so much fun! (I didnt do any of the 3 by the way!) So, dont worry because worrying makes it worse. When it comes to it, youll be so caught up with everything that you wont notice the nerves. Sending you HUGE hugs, good luck!! If you like to chat more, contact me at [e-mail] xx

Answer 10

I know what you mean, I'm not married yet but when i graduated i had to walk through this HUGE cathedral full of people wearing my gown and stuff and had this big image of me falling over in front of everyone. It almost stopped me from going!

But a friend of mine told me that you have to visualise what you are getting at the end of it, not the journey. A lot of the time we focus on how long and hard it is to get to where we want to be but you've done the hard work to get this far (learning to love his faults and not just the good etc), now just visualise your hubby and your amazing life together and just do what you need to do. Talk in front of others, walk in front of others... It's something you do every day and so you know you can do it. It's all about not thinking about what you're doing but why and who for.

Good luck Hun.
xxx