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I'm 20, and I have hope of being with her. I'm a loser and I have always been one. I've never been in a relationship, never kissed, never spent time with a woman, never gotten a woman's number...I've never had one in my life, even as a friend. I've never been approached by one, obviously, because of my looks. I'm skinny, ugly and don't fit into anyone's league. I am a loser and I hope I die soon.

2006-11-21 22:48:06 · 18 answers · asked by wad up 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Typo: I have ***NO hope of being with her.

2006-11-21 22:49:24 · update #1

18 answers

Just think of hating yourself as a waste of your life. Work on liking yourself more and gather some confidence up. Everyone can find someone they enjoy being with, or multiple partners. You're only 20. I know people that didn't lose their virginity until much older. Your life doesn't have to be perfect fresh out of your teenage years. When you like yourself more (I know it's hard) then gradually people will take notice. It mostly depends upon how you carry yourself. Also, try approaching more women, if you don't talk to anyone, you won't get noticed as much.

2006-11-22 11:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You won't die soon and that's a horrible thing to say. There are far worse off people in the world and you should be grateful for what you have: health, wealth, liberty and literacy.

You're not a loser, you just haven't started winning yet. If you don't start taking chances and approaching girls and learning something about them you will continue in exactly the same rut as you are in now for a long time.

But you have options. Get a haircut and a new hobby and spend more time outside and less on the internet. When you do go online, have a look for David DeAngelo. He'll sort you out. But above all, pull yourself together, stop feeling sorry for yourself and forget about this 'one girl'. You have to realise that there isn't anything really special about her, and if you saw her less often and hung around with other girls more regularly, your feelings would very quickly change.

2006-11-21 23:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by CiarᮠM 2 · 0 0

ok with an attitude like that then u will definetely be considered a loser. i don't know if i speak for the general public but for me confidence in a man is always a plus.you need to be confident in urself whatever u think ur flaws are...sometimes i lokk in the mirror and i see my flaws but i dont let them rule my life am sure evn those celebs if they looked hard enough in a mirro they would find something about their bodies they didn't like.

there is nothing wrong with liking just one girl i guess ur still young and in time u might like even over 100 at one time..........personally i wish i had a guy who liked only me.you need to start becoming friends with girls thats always the first step if ur not too confident and after they have gotten to know u and what ur true nature is then they cant judge u based on ur looks .so u have to be beautiful inside and that is an easy thing to do.

dying never solves anything for anybody you never know what the future has in store for u so hang on.....life isnt much fair but we all manage to get by just one step at a time :)

2006-11-21 23:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by mwm 2 · 0 0

Change will not happen by itself. No body is a born loser. YOu are still very young, at 20, and it is in your hands to take things in a different way. Believe me, looks are the least important of personal traits of a young man. Get yourself attached to some work, even if entry level, get yourself good at it, learn about it by reading and practicing, and you'll get there. Once you are successful at something that you do, life will open up and girls will start admiring you for what you are. Have some faith in yourself.

2006-11-21 23:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0 0

Stop acting like a loser and things will get better. You are still young, stop pitying yourself and start living. stop waiting for things to happen to you, go out and make them happen. How can you expect to meet women if you do not approach them. And nobody is ugly. Just take care of yourself physically, and some women will find you attractive.

2006-11-21 22:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by krisi 3 · 0 0

with an attitude like that i can see why no girl has dated you. your almost to the age where people are more mature and realize looks die fast and want someone with personality. work on your personality to make up for your lack of good looks, first off lose the negativity, girls like guys with confidence. the internet is also a good place to meet girls because if you are a good guy in general a girl can see that before she sees what you look like and won't dismiss you immediately. not trying to sound mean, just trying to open your eyes to reality

2006-11-21 22:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

first of all i choose for to assert, there are various extra human beings accessible interior the comparable place as you than you think of. sometimes, existence only sucks, yet there is usually a thank you to make it extra suitable as long as you're searching for a fashion. i think of you're being too problematical on your self... take it down a notch and luxuriate interior the little issues in existence. you're saying which you extremely choose for to get your existence began, even if it HAS began. circulate out and grab a coffee, connect a club, chat to human beings on cyber web boards. take in some charity or volunteer paintings to characteristic on your resume, at the same time as assembly human beings at the same time as doing it. no person would be attentive to you lack in social skills, all and sundry will see you as a great looking guy to talk to. connect some geeky gaming web content and make some acquaintances on line - I had some great acquaintances from those. save on putting in those job delivers and searching around. in case you haven't any longer have been given a automobile, is there public transport you should apply? a motorcycle? end questioning so you might have a "stable job" to start your existence. lots of those with jobs experience much extra depressed from the workload and absence of time to get exhilaration from themselves. of direction you choose for a job, and that i promise you will get one in case you hold attempting, yet why no longer get exhilaration from the time in between?

2016-11-26 00:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by suozzo 4 · 0 0

oh my goodness!! how cud u b so hard on yourself like this? and only at 20? jeez!!! u r actuallyy very young and u shud be focussing on other things in your life apart from how many women u have kissed.

please u r like any human being if u continue feeling like thid abt urself it wont change a thing and u will feel the same way, 15 years down the line.

change your attitude love yourself, accept yourself and others will fall suit.

2006-11-21 23:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Essie 2 · 0 0

Just die then. Nobody likes whiny little sods, especially not females.

And just remember that while you have gone your entire life without having a girlfriend, I have the uncanny ability to juggle a few girls at a time. Sucks to be you, loser!

2006-11-21 22:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Evan 1 · 0 1

dosent mater who said ure a loser soem1 will coem 1 day were the people who are difrent who care the 1s who call themselves normal have too much pride it just menas ure mreo capble of being a leader then agreeindg with evrrey1 else

2006-11-22 04:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by emo elmo 2 · 0 0

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