My 15 year old son is very smart and under a lot of pressure in school. He has had str8 A's all of his life and has never had a discipline problem. Lately due to all of the pressure on him to keep up his good grades he has become very violent towards me. He has cursed me out several times. He has also began beating me and spitting in my face. One night he beat me using my own personal collection of whips and chains. My jaw was broken, I had two black eyes and I was unable to walk for a week. My husband says its not a big deal because he is just going through a rough time and sometimes in life we all have to be someone's punching bag. Should I allow my son to continue to beat on me or should I bribe him to stop??
2006-11-21 22:46:32 · 28 answers · asked by flushing06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I guess it's time to be the punching bag, although maybe the two of you could go shopping for his own personal collection of whips and chains so he won't use your own on you and then maybe he can turn his aggression on his Dad since he says it's no big deal.
Hey congrats on the str8 A's!
2006-11-22 02:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by beanietara 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your son has excessive anger for his age. Make him go to anger management classes. You never have to be someone's punching bag, and if that's your husband's attitude then re-consider the relationship because you may end up being your husband's punching bag. Your son learned this from somewhere (hopefully not your husband), and unless you want him to be a criminal, get him some help. Get rid of any weapons in your house.
Also tell your son that you don't expect him to get straight A's, only that you expect him to do his best. If his best is a C, then that's okay. And mean it. Do not tolerate the beatings, call 911 if you have to and get your son the help he needs. You do not have to be anyone's punching bag or doormat. You deserve better.
2006-11-22 03:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is from your profile:
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This question isn't even remotely funny. This doesn't help to lighten the mood at all. This type of humor is disgusting and sick. You obviously have never been in an abusive relationship or had a close friend in one or you would never have posted this garbage. I feel sorry that you consider this funny. That's pathetic.
2006-11-21 23:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this question is serious... then you better bribe him to stop!!!! you could be a better parent by teaching your son to respect you and choose the people whom he would burst everything out! you're his mum and you deserve respect. Tell your husband to talk to your son. Sometimes, a son needs manly words from his dad. I think it is completely wrong to let your child treat you as his punching bag. You are human and his actions are very inappropriate...
The next time he beats you up, beat him up too! sometimes a child needs to be hurt before he realizes all his faults....
But if he still doesn't change... call the police and report him. That would surely teach him his lesson...
2006-11-21 23:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by fudgee_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, for one, am not so sure why your 15 year old son has access to your whips and chains. I'm also fairly confident that NOBODY would ever say that "sometimes you have to be someone's punching bag." And how does having your jaw broken keep you from walking?
2006-11-21 22:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would have taken that personal collection of whips and chains to my hubby's behind for letting my son do that.
I say take those whips and chains and drag your hubby outside in the front yard in front of your neighbors and all the little neighborhood children and show him what's what.
I bet then your son AND your husband will learn a good lesson!!!
2006-11-22 06:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are serious and not pulling our legs, I would say that your whole family belong to a mental institution. I am not trying to insult you, but who would keep a private collection of whips and chains. Do you have a private torture chambre as well?. This is weird. You need to report yourself and your whole family to the Police and ask for protection.
2006-11-21 22:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....
It is a large concern that he is beating you up with your OWN collection of whips and chains ( like are you joking)
Im sorry I dont mean to be rude but this is the thing that has jumped out at me ....
Not that you have the collection etc ..... but that he knows/has access to it etc\
2006-11-21 22:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband said what?!! i disagree with him. i have experience in this field, and beleive me it needs to be acted upon.
i am 31, and when i was 15 my brother commited suicide ( i am telling you this because of the story prior to it) dont worry though i am sure he wont. but b4 that happened, he was always angry with my mum and dad and teachers at school, and that started between 14/15 but i do know he was angry with some personal problems and they came out in anger, also guilt... the amospere in the house was unreal, my mum crying for days my dad at his wits end my brother beating me up, throwing things at us... maybe, a, he is guilty of something and does not know how to cope, b, is he angry about something?? see ifyou can find out where the anger is coming from. and if you cant you will need outside help. ask around maybe go to drs for youself he will be able to advise you. x
2006-11-21 22:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not joking you should find out if he's doing drugs. personality changes like that are a massive sign and tell him your gonna press charges. Your husband should back you up and beat the crap out of your son when he goes for you.
2006-11-21 22:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋