i went to a parents/teacher meeting yesterday about my 8 year old daughter ,the only complaint that i got was that she was too pleasing to the teacher ,if the teacher wanted her to do one page she did two , i know kids learn from their parents but i dont know were i went wrong , any advice please
2006-11-21 22:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if the teacher is pleased with their home work they get a stamp in their book and can save them up for a home work pass
2006-11-21 22:46:13 · update #1
she has a twin brother in the same class and he is the completely different ,he does less then the teacher wants !
2006-11-21 23:01:13 · update #2
Don't you let the teachers tell you did something wrong.......she is an overachiever and should be rewarded not punished.
2006-11-21 22:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Monte T 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps she's aware that her brother isn't doing enough, and hopes that if she does more then he won't be penalized. She may be compensating for him. Don't think you did anything wrong, just sit her down. Encourage her to do what is necessary and do it well. I'm just graduated college, and if we do more than necessary we get penalized for it (ex: if they say to answer 5 out of 7 questions and we do all 7, we only get graded on the first 5, even though the last 2 may be the best answers).
You didn't go wrong, just talk to your daughter and son and see what may be going on, it seems that there may be an underlying issue occuring.
2006-11-22 11:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a people pleaser. Start trying to help her make her own choices. Teach her that people will still like her if she tells them no. Praise her for the work, but impress upon her that she needs to follow directions. Just try your best to raise her as an independant thinker. Do this in a loving way so she doesn't feel like she's done anything wrong. Just support her choices and give her more opportunities to choose things for herself so she excercises her reasoning and gets confident in making good choices. And grats on the good report!
2006-11-22 06:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't gone wrong at all. Your daughter seems like a nice girl and is only trying to please. Think about it. If she was a troublemaker then you would have problems. As long as your daughter isn't spending all her time keeping the teacher happy then maybe she's smarter than you think and wants a homework pass. Can you blame her. lol Smart cookie!!!
2006-11-22 06:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Moira S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for kids this age to view an adult, often a teacher as their "ideal" person. Ask her teacher to tell her privately that she also likes her but that she doesn't need to do more homework than what is necessary.
2006-11-22 06:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inform her that she must listen to the teachers instructions and complete the homework as instructed (unless there is extra credit for doing more).
2006-11-22 06:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by JusMe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, isn't that just personality? If I were you I would just make sure they are getting enough R&R. Other then that, it could be a lot worse. Make sure you tell her how proud of her you are (daily, shoot hourly, lol) that you love her no matter what, your proud of her hard work, but you would also like to see her enjoy life as well.
2006-11-22 08:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could buy some assignment book for her to do?
This kills 2 bird with 1 stone =)
2006-11-22 06:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by nasuki k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see a problem with this. i wish my girl would do the 1st page.
2006-11-22 06:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by sweetre2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋