My boy of 22 months is not close to me at all. Sonetimes when he does somthing wrong like hiding under a table... I tried to talk to him first but when he doen't listen, I am usually the one who will discipline him. He then will walk away and doesn't want me to touch or hug him. I tried explaining things to him but he sort of understand what I say but he purposely don't want to listen to me. Would he resent me and hate me for scolding him? I tried spending quality time with him despite my work. What should I do so that he knows that I am doing things against him. Please advise...
2006-11-21 22:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by round face 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hi i have three children they are school age now but i think 22 months is very young you could try the stairs try sitting him on the stairs for 1 min of his life and leave him there if he gets of just put him back on when he has done is 1 min go to him and tell him why u put him on the stairs then give him a cuddle and tell him u love him. lots of playing and cuddle before bed and maybe a story will bring you both closer. my son was like that and i felt like he hated me but he didn't i just needed one to one with him lots of cuddle or soft talking will bring him around good luck honey
2006-11-22 01:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by honey123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you are the parent, first of all!!! At 22 months your son is seeing what he can "get away with". Don't talk the child to death, at that age all they hear are the first three words you say and then the rest is lost. I am hoping this "under the table" thing was just one example and not your whole problem. Discipline is good as long as it is done appropriately. Be percise and to the point when telling him what you want him to do or not do. Examples: Come out, Sit down, Get up, Go to bed, Simple commands are easier for him to understand. Hope this helps!
2006-11-21 22:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 22 months he doesn't understand WHY you are disciplining him. He is a baby baby's don't think like adults. When someone treats you badly do you want them to hug you? Talking to him isn't going to work...again he is a BABY he doesn't understand the concept of right and wrong. He understand the concept of attention and it doesn't matter to him HOW he gets it. First of all you have to stop trying to relate to your baby as if he were an adult because it will never work. Secondly you simply have to discipline him period. You don't HAVE to explain it.
2006-11-25 15:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of scolding him you need to be playing with your son. If he is under the table grab a ball and roll it to him. Make it a game and have some fun with the little guy. Nothing tells a child you love him more than spending time with him playing and laughing.
2006-11-21 22:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sherral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than acting in a threatening manner and disciplining him (which is probably making him scared of you), when he hides under a table, try gently coaxing him out by making a game out of it (like hide-and-seek or peek-a-boo), placing his favourite toys somewhere near the table, or doing something humourous such as looking at him and saying, "I ...can... see... you" in a humourous way.
2006-11-21 22:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is NEVER too early to discipline a little one. It is crucial that you let him know who's boss. Don't let him grow up being a spoiled brat. Who's the mom here, anyway?
If he gives you an attitude, it is crucial you respond to that, with, like, 'no fuss.' and stick him in his crib. Let him cry. Then take him out when he stops-don't make little visits by his crib. He needs to know his bad behavior AND good behaviors will be noticed, and that both will get a reaction out of you.
See?
Just PLEASE don't raise him to be a spoiled brat. You can do it!
Good luck, mum!
2006-11-21 23:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still a baby. he doesnt understand right from wrong yet. you talking and scolding him like that only produces fear. try putting him in a playpen or something when he does something wrong. restrict his movement, he will get the picture soon.
2006-11-21 22:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by sweetre2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is a 2 year old kid worth punishing for hiding under the table??
my dad punished me for everything when i was a kid and all through my teenage years..and when i was 18 i kisked the **** out of him...
is that what you want from your son?
2006-11-21 22:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little young to be disciplined. Wait until he can understand why you are disiplining him.
2006-11-21 22:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a trust issue... tell him you are going to do something for him and follow through with it... continue doing that to build trust... and of course let the kid know you love him.....
at that age when he does something wrong you must take complete control of the situation without guilt...
2006-11-21 22:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋