I haven't had a girlfriend in years. My heart is being a heterosexual (I want to have a wife and kids) but you're constantly having homosexual thoughts now; what the heck is wrong with me? Is it anxiety, fear of rejection, etc... I need help.
2006-11-21 22:23:06 · 7 answers · asked by ur2a 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
there is probably nothing wrong with you. anxiety, fear of rejection, does not cause homosexual thoughts. it is normal to have some thoughts about homosexuality, as it is a natural curiosity. however if you have desires to be with men, that is considered normal too, if, you basically by nature, homosexual. a lot of men want wive and children, sometimes because of self fulfillment, or because there is a lot of peer pressure to do so. i know men that suppress their homosexuality, marry, have children, deny their homosexuality, and quite often it is a problem later in life. some of these men finally give in to their sexual orientation, and that can hurt their children and their wives. i think u would be better off deciding what you are in life, and accept that fact. it is not a choice to be gay or straight, it is in your nature to be either,one or the other, and although people have tried, there is no therapeutic way to change your sexuality, in my opinion. a talk with a therapist would be helpfull. i believe that most homosexual people also, would like to have children, because it is a natural instinct to nurture and love, however for some people it is not meant to be. once you decide who u are, then life will be easier for you. never be ashamed of who u are, either gay or straight, we are all human beings, and deserve all the good benifits of life. good luck hope this helps
2006-11-22 02:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by zeek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have those thoughts. There's nothing wrong with you. As humans we're curious by nature. I don't mean that everyone's had these thoughts before but I'm sure the majority of us have. I have! And I fantasize about a million other things too. There's nothing wrong with that.
If it's troubling you, and if it's something that's causing you even more anxiety, I suggest you speak to someone about it. Call a therapist or a counselor. They'll be able to give you much better advice than we can here on Yahoo. Good luck!
2006-11-22 01:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M NOT HAVING HOMOSEXUAL THOUGHTS and you shouldn't either, just because you haven't had a girlfriend in years, that doesn't make you gay. You want a family, a wife and children.
Maybe fear of rejection is the reason you haven't had a girlfriend, why not try harder, let a girl know you're interested, if you are?
Don't let homosexual thoughts be yours, just because you hear others having them. Be a man, find a woman!
2006-11-21 22:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maximum LGBT human beings will inform you they were attentive to their thoughts from a youthful age (5-10). you're perfect - sexuality doesn't should be labelled. For me, I had gay thoughts from the age of 5 and then began having instantly thoughts from about 14 onwards. I evaluate myself bisexual. Confirming what you've faith your sexuality to be does take time and adventure. i comprehend of someone who got here out as gay, and then realised he became bisexual (in his early 20s, even as he had a weigh down on a woman). popping out is a procedure it really is voluntary, and that is done on your human being time - no longer someone elses. you would no longer pick to come back out - if so, thats as a lot as you. do not enable each person rigidity you. in case you do come out, then it does variety reckoning on who your friends/family contributors are. some everyone looks surrounded by homophobic human beings and could adventure negative reaction (fantastically in the adventure that they are in a non secular community) even as others haven't any situation in any way. you could pick to get in contact with an LGBT counsellor which could assist you by any procedure you're uncertain about.
2016-11-29 08:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey pal geez go to a bar and get some girl and go home and have a good time you will forget the other thinking way
2006-11-22 01:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by nick g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get it out of your system
2006-11-22 04:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a try
2006-11-21 22:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋