I can't take this anymore! I don't know what to do! I need your help!?

Question

Please be patient and read! I don't know what to do! I'm desperate! I have a big problem related to school. Me and my family moved in another house in september. So obviously I changed my school, too, because it was to far away from our house. But the thing is that in the other school I moved from, my father teached there. So everyone knew I was his daughter and most of them didn't dare to say anything to me. And the teachers didn't treated me like any ordinary child, I mean... they didn't give me a small note if I didn't learn something that day, they would've forgive me and told me to learn for the next day or something like that. But when we moved withe the house and school... everything changed... Let me tell something first: I am a very shy person. But not like you imagine. No! You can't even imagine how shy I am! So it was something like that:
In the first day in my new school, I was so scared! I didn't knew how the teachers were going to be, or how the children will be.

(I'm in the 7th grade, by the way) So... I saw the classroom, and I made a step and entered... But then I couldn't do anything! I freezed! I didn't knew what to do! All the kids in that classroom were looking at me and I just hate that! Then one of the girls jumped from her seat and asked me: Are you knew? Hi, I'm....... and she told me her name.. Then all, but all the girls from that classroom came to me and presented themselves. It was pretty shocking... I didn't expect them to treat me so nice... then they showed me my seat and bla, bla, bla. Then some other girls came to me and bla, bla we talked. We stayed an hour or so at the school until they gave us the books and then we leaved. (I stay in a house that's just in front of the school... that close I am to the school...)
So when I got home, I thought about all that, about how my first day of school was. And compared to my other class, from which I moved, they were a lot nicer! Those other kids from my other school, they were awful

After every hour, they had to run through the whole classroom and surely they always broke something. A chair, a window, a painting anything. So, I thought my first day of school was heaven! But after some time, it turned into hell...
In the second day, a girl was waiting for me in front of my house. We went to school and after our first class, some girl asked me if I want to go with her on the hallways, through the school and so. I said no, even though she insisted a lot. Because I don't use to run, scream or act foolishly at school (I told you that you can't even imagine how shy I am...) So, then after the next hour, another girl came to me and asked me the same thing. I still said no. I just stayed on my seat for 6 hours and then left home.
In the third day, the same thing happened and all the teachers asked me why am I sad... But I wasn't! I just use to be serious and not smile during the class for no reason! So the children started to be suspicious and wondered why am I like that

In the fourth day, they were even more suspicios. So they asked me even more why I am so shy etc.
In the fifth day, they were actualy annoyed of my personality!
So in the first day of the next week, they tried a couple of time to make me get out of my seat, to jump and scream like them, but then they quited. And in the second day of that week, they were completly tired of trying and they already started making fun of me... That's when the hell started... They kept making fun of me all the time. A day couldn't pass without them saying something mean! I just got so stressed and annoyed of their insults (and not only their insults, the other class that's right on the left of our class, started, too!) And I couldn't say anything mean to them because... I'm shy! I just couldn't! So I went to school until 6 november, then I stopped going. Of course my parents know I'm not going because I stay all day at home. But I didn't tell them why, because I know my mom.

She would go and kill those kids if she finds out! And now it's 22 november. I missed a lot from all the lessons and it will be very hard to recover all. But even if they will promise me all the gold in the world, I'm not going back to that school! And I don't think it's usefull to go to another school, because everywhere I go, the kids will act the same! So I thought about homeschooling... But I'm from Romania,and in our country it's not yet legal this. It will be legal in 2007. But what am I going to do until then? I'm desperate! I don't know what to do! But I'm sure of one thing: I'm never, ever going back to that school again! So p[lease help me out here! Tell me what to do!

Answer 1

Talk with your parents about this, and perhaps the schools guidance councellor. The children there seem quite unruly and I think what you describe only happens when there is no adult supervision around. They may have no clue it's going on ... except for the broken items you mention. You need to let adults know there's a problem .. start with your own parents and follow their guidance.

Answer 2

Sometimes kids at school can be really cruel, there picking on you because they know you have a fault (being shy).
If you go back and greet the whole class, they will be shocked and be friends with you.
If that doesn't work, then every day say hi to the ones picking on you, then after that you should ask them to go out shopping.
If they say no, then say well I had better things to do, the best thing to do is not be scared.
If your scared they'll sense it and it will make it worse.
Shock is the best thing for bullies, and if you need some pointers think of your hero and they'll give you strength, by the way remember to be friendly.
But this doesn't mean you have to be mean, just sometimes bullies can be a pain and if you can show them that you can walk up to everyone then your in.
Sincerely BuzzLightGirl.

Answer 3

Sounds alot like my life. I went through the same thing. I was shy in school and did not like attention. I changed schools 5 times from 7th to 11th grade. I hated it and it was worse every time. People made fun of me because I was different or weird. I quit school for 3 months and was worried about the same things you are. I finally decided to go back and the school got me a tutor to help me make up my missed work and that was terrible. But I did it. I just started ignoring everyone in school. I went to school, I did the work and then I went home. I did what I had to do to get it over with. The best thing you can do is to do what you don't want to do. It will make you stronger because when life gets tough and you start to hate it that's when you need to be stronger. Life is challenging you to overcome your problems. You can say it's too hard and just give up but then you will be the one to suffer later for your decisions. If you decide your going to try and make it through then I promise life will help you out. Being shy is hard enough but the best way to handle that is to just not worry about it. Easier said that done of course but you have to fake it to make sometimes.
I feel really terrible for you and I wish there was more I could do. maybe you could email me and you could let me know what's going on and we could talk it over as it happens. You just need someone to listen and help you ask the right questions and find your own answers. You will make it no matter what so don't give up!
Hope to hear from you.
Jamie
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Answer 4

That sounds horrible!
Moving at any age is very stressful. Changing schools is horrible too. When I moved from the city to the country, here in Michigan, I was a year ahead of everyone in school and these country kids were all bigger and stronger and didn't like 'out siders'
I have to believe your parents love you very much and want to the best for you. Please keep this in mind.
Change is very hard, this move is hard for your parents also.
I hope, in time, NOT RIGHT AWAY, you will adjust to these changes. You are growing up, you may always be shy but I believe you will grow to be a little less shy. Its painful, but you need to get through this. You are growing up to be an adult, not a kid for the rest of your life. Take care, it will get better

Answer 5

You poor kid!!! I'm in the 6th grade and about 2 turn 11. The same thing happened 2 me, kinda. I was like that only at church. The kids were EVIL 2 ME!!! I'll e-mail what they did 2 me. I would just wait until 07. But you're making the right choice. I'm home schooled. It's legall for me cause I'm in the US.I'll keep you in my prayers.

Answer 6

If it is not illegal for you to stay home from school so long this year then teach yourself (with your parents help). Read books, study history, write stories, ask your parents if you can help manage the bills so you can learn daily math, study anything that sparks your interest. If there is a library in your town, make use of it. You get the internet, use that for research. Stay motivated!

Answer 7

Listen, I recetnly changed skools and faced the same problems. I couldnt stop going as my parents wouldnt allow. You could perhaps confide in ur teachers or parents. Start going to school, try to find a middle way .Dont say no each time and try to tell them why you cant do what they want ,be firm.

Answer 8

Ignore the comments , that is really ez to do . just walk passed and usually in a few days or so they will see that you don`t care and they may stop (I`m not 100% sure) I`m about the same age as you (Prolly)

Answer 9

you mean to tell me you just stopped going to school and your parents NEVER asked you why?thats crazy, i dont know how it is in your country but cant you talk to your parents and ask them if you can go BACK to the school where your dad teaches? if not you can come stay here in america with my family.. good luck

Answer 10

You better tell talk to your parents about that matter,child.

I know you can overcome it.