But I don't want to hurt her. At the same time I'm not 100% confident I want to leave her, I get on with her better than anyone else I know. I've tried speaking with her about this but she quite understandably was really annoyed. I havn't had sex with any other women, but have had a kiss with another women, and text a few. She doesn't know about this. If I left her I'm sure I could find another woman, but I know I'd be lonely for a long time. I'm only 21, this sounds like some kind of mid-life crisis! It must be bad if I'm using Yahoo answers for help, lol. Should I stay with her and work at it even though I'm not 100% sure that's what I want or do I leave her now, deal with the unhappiness even though I'm not 100% sure that's what I want. Any one else been in a similar situation that can offer any advice????
2006-11-21 21:53:32 · 8 answers · asked by mcwilson2k6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't want to be with her, or if you want to try out other people, break up with her. You'll be hurting her more if you cheat behind her back and she finds out.
2006-11-21 21:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you're coming from.. I'm 21, and was stuck in a 4 year relationship. The first few years were great; we were best friends, and everything. During the last year or so, the whole thing just took a nosedive. He became controlling, mentally abusive, every time I left the house, I'd have to answer 20 questions the second I came home. He used to swear up and down that I was screwing around on him (I can honestly say I never did). Needless to say, I left him about a year and a half ago. And yes, it hurts. But, that's life. No one said it was going to be easy.
If you don't think you want to be in that relationship.. just end it. No use in stringing someone along while you make up your mind. Besides, it only gets harder to leave as years go by.
This is really your own decision, though. I don't know what your grounds are for leaving her, so I really can't offer any more advice than I have. Just do what you think is best. You have to trust yourself on this one.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 06:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by [we're all mad here] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in any relationship there comes a time when your not sure if you want to be with that person. I went through the same thing. I broke up with my boyfriend moved on to another one and after a year went back to the first one. I guess the grass isnt always greener on the other side. But I am thankful that I did leave because we both had time to change and find ourselves. I would suggest just talking a break from each other maybe only hang out a few times a week, if you find yourself missing her then you will know that you want to stay with her and if you enjoy being away then you will know that its time to move on. Goodluck with your decision:)
2006-11-22 05:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still young, and maybe ur realising that being tied to one girl, ur missing out on some of lifes adventures,, maybe u should spend some more time a lone,, have a break, and if it was meant to be , u will be back together
2006-11-22 06:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 21 and you sound like a little boy. You are not ready for a grown up relationship. Let the girl go find her man.........
2006-11-22 05:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by She Said 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
Break it off. If you aren't satisfied in the relationship, you'll need to do it, sooner than later. The more you put it off, the more it'll hurt her. If you don't break it off, this will just keep building in your head, and you'll never feel satisfied. Just do it.
2006-11-22 05:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think this out for your self...If you don't want to be with her then leave, do it now not later....
2006-11-22 06:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! YOU R SAME AS ME
2006-11-22 05:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋