Is a wedding a crappy deal?

Question

The average wedding costs $25,000US. More, if like many you borrow money to pay for it. That's a new car bought and paid for!

If your in a solid commited relationship, why marry and who do you think benefits from marrying?

Answer 1

cause ever since a girl is old enough to know whats being said to her marriage crap is stuck in her head. on your wedding day everything is all aobut you -- blah blah poop. i learned frome being multi -ethniced italians pass around a bag to put money in so they get bonus bucks back at least. i never went to a wedding that was that great anyway -- bad music and bad food and cheap champagne and have you ever tried to eat that crappy cake? i guess they sound like a good idea.

Answer 2

Its all relative. How important is a nice car to you? You dont have to spend $25,000 on a car...but some people want a BMW or Mercedes. Vacations are expensive and dont last very long either, but no one complains about that.

If youre in a solid relationship, there is nothing truly commited about it, unless youre married. Marriage transcends the commitment you make to your significant other, so that you are no longer "me and you", but one, working together toward the ultimate goal of happiness...well at least thats the end goal according to Aristotle. Marriage is a real promise that you make to the one you love. Even when you just start planning for a wedding you see that there is commitment beyond just being a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Answer 3

You, yourself benefits from getting married. I do not know if you are religious or not but that is what God purpose for us to do. Women should respect themselves and demand that men take the initiative and not use some lame excuse to get out of a legal arrangement. You are taking the honour away from the marriage bed. Demand more for yourself.
If you think that you are in a solid committed relationship then you are wrong. You would have been married by now. You have been led to believe that. It's a facade. You need to re-evaluate your commitment and find out whose idea it was not to be married and why it is so comfortable.
Yeah, a quiet low-key inexpensive weddings is better than the showy display of debt. This is personal as well as a public declaration of your love and commitment.

There are legal benefits, Parenting, financial etc., etc.

Answer 4

Marrying someone does not equal having an expensive wedding. Our wedding cost us $500, this included bride and groom outfits. We chose to spend extra money on our "honeymoon". What the benefits of marriage are? It's easier to run the family financially; you get tax breaks; wills, inheritances and medical directives are also handled more easily. Socially, marriage is still "the norm"; some people feel it's worth it to get married just so they don't have to deal with people asking "why aren't you married yet" for the rest of their lives; being different has its price. Emotionally, marriage signifies a "higher" level of committment for many people; it gives the added feeling of security and assurance.

Whether or not it's worth dumping thousands of $$ on one day of entertainment is a personal choice. "Wedding" and "marriage" should not be confused.

Answer 5

Well, I am sure you don't want me to launch in on a long explanation of why God invented marriage how it is a reflection of Christ's relationship with his church, so I will give you instead a secular answer.
Marriage tells a woman (and a man) that this person is willing to make a PUBLIC profession of love and commitment. It is an extremely important foundation for the relationship. It means that you are telling the world that this is the person for you, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do you part.

Now, onto the cost. My husband and I married 8 years ago in front of the Justice of the Peace with my squad leader and his wife as our witnesses. It cost about 50 bucks. Then, years later, we decided to have a "nicer" ceremony at a church with friends. That cost about 500 bucks and it was a beautiful event that I will cherish always.

It's not the money, my dear, it is the public profession of love that your partner is looking for.

If that is not enough, you also have the added benefit of combined income and household for taxes, insurance benefits, death expenses, wills, term life, etc, etc, etc, that you MUST be married for in order to obtain.

I would question your motives. Are you really ready to commit in public to this person for the rest of your life? If not, why are you with him/her?

Answer 6

To name a few there are spiritual, financial, and emotional benefits of being married. If you are getting married, then *the couple* should be benefitting from it, if they aren't then, they probably shouldn't be getting married.

Also no one says you have to spend the national average or more on a wedding. It all depends on a couples tastes. If they want to be in debt up to thier ears let them.
Personally my husband and I didn't feel the need to. So instead of using all of our money we saved for a year on one day, we used it to pay off all of our debt, have the wedding of our dreams on a budget and are pay for the honeymoon. Now we have no debt, we had an awesome, beautiful wedding, and we're getting ready to have a kick *** honeymoon! :P

Answer 7

Not everyone pays 25k for their weddings...a lot of people choose to spend 10k or less and others choose to spend 50k+. Those who spend a lot of money on their weddings have the money to spend. It usually comes from the couple's parents and it was saved since they were babies for that purpose.

Answer 8

Some people marry just to make it offical, and to announce their commitment to their friends and family..

And some people do it cause they insist on being a princess. Yikes.

Answer 9

..... yeah marriage is a good thing if yuh want it, because then it become's legally recognized.... Also small private wedding's are way better than church wedding's, because who want's to pay $25,000, just to have some one say,...... I here-by bless your ar*e.... Big fancy church wedding's, involve to much ceremonial bullsh*t, so small wedding's, or even the local registry wedding's, are way, way, better than church wedding's!...

Answer 10

Well it can be done for about $100 in a court house too.