My wife is to FAT and unattractive now....?
After my wife gave birth 2 years ago she has become really big. I am tiried of seeing her fat rolls when she takes off her shirt. She looks like a can of busted bisquits with her fat rolls. I dont wont my kid being raised by an unhealthy woman. I limit my wifes eating and put diatrim in her coffee but its still not working. I told her lose weight or your out of the house. What should I do and can I win in court if I want sole custody of the kid?
2006-11-21 20:41:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-21 20:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by coco 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does your wife work outside the home? If so, I would suggest you get a higher paying job that allows her to be home full time. This will give her the time she needs to start an exercise program.
Your comments regarding your wife's health are extremely unloving and unkind however. I would question your motives and whether or not you actually care about your wife's health or if you are just looking for an excuse to leave her.
Women need love and self-esteem. Are you a positive role model for her? What is your diet? And by the way, what do you look like in the mirror? If you cannot find a loving way to talk to your wife about her weight you shouldn't say anything at all, because you are damaging her with your hurtful and mean comments.
In regard to full custody, in the United States of America in most states the courts are bias toward women, meaning you will have to come up with a VERY good reason why the court should take these children away from their mother, and her being overweight is just not good enough.
In short, I think you are an unkind and unloving husband who is turning his role as protector and leader in the household to one of tyrant and dictator.
I suggest you read the book "every man's battle" for help, and of course, the Holy Bible.
2006-11-21 20:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe all that negativity towards your wife about losing weight only shoots her confidence down to the point where she probably turns to the only thing that makes her feel safe? I know that food is not a crutch, but you leave her no choice but to do it. Why don't you make it a family affair, try and workout with her. On the weekends do some outdoor activities together such as: hiking, learning to surf, biking, gardening, even cleaning out the garage together. Why don't you try being part of the solution and quit being part of the problem. She'll appreciate it more, and in the long run so will you. If the tables were turned and she ended up leaving you all because you were heavier than you would be devastated.
2006-11-21 21:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you your self have a rippling muscles and as good looking as Brad Pitt, mate?
If you really want her to lose weight, sit down and talk nicely about this. You can offer to go for a jog together, start cooking healthy meal & stop buying snacks.
And, i think its ur marriage which has problem. Ur wedding vows should be something about: For the better or worse, until death do us part. & you want divorce just because she is putting on weight?
Mate, she put on weight beacuse she was bearing ur children too! How would you feel if you are in her shoes?
You wont get any custody for your kids because of it. Cant imagine you walk down the court and say:' i want to divorce my wife cos she is fat now. Based on this, i want sole custody for my kids'. Jesus.
Oh, one more. She might be unhealthy, but that doesnt mean she is a not loving mother! be realistic mate!
2006-11-21 20:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
did you honestly love your wife before u married her? do u love her now? coz true love goes beyond fatness and untrractivness.
when women give birth their bodies react differently. Its seems ur wife is the type that the body react quickly and becomes big. Show her that u love her and explain to her how important it is for her to cut down her weight by going to the gym and dieting. When she realizes that you r uncomfortable with her weight she might get depressed and eat the more.
be there for your wife. For heavens sake you r married to ehr and she is the mother of your baby.
Be reasonable and help her cut her weight.
2006-11-21 20:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Essie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think it must be your fault somewhere..dun simply leave ur wife when she needed u the most..i wish i could give u advice before marriage but its too late now..u shouldnt be married to someone just because of their appearances..but because of her kindness and other things too..if u r maaried her physical look only then i guess it is time for u to leave her..sad i see this happened to many people..
if really want her to change then talk to her..if u love her then u should consult her to lose her weight..its not that hard..u still could make it work..all da best man..all and all u decide..
2006-11-21 21:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by atokboy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how can u leave ur wife just coz she is NOT GOODLOOKING......i really dun believe this, see what if in future u get a girl who is attractive but has worst nature what wl u do wen that smartie will make ur life h3ll, children needs love of both their mom n dad, if u wl divorce ur wife n take away the kids u wl spoil ur own family, if u want ur wife to be goodlooking then discuss these things with her n make her understand , i m damn sure she wl try her level best to make herself pretty for u :)
2006-11-21 21:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ashiii 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would be more concerned about your children being raised by a prejudice father rather than a mother who is carrying some extra pounds.
you will never win custody of your children for her being over weight, if anything, a judge would give your wife custody because a judge would see how nasty you are.
she is the mother of your child dammit, show her some respect and if you are that concerned about her weight, buy her a walking machine or a gym membership for xmas.
i can guarantee she doesnt feel happy she way she is now, and you arent helping her at all.
2006-11-21 20:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You will never get custody of the children, especially when your cheating comes to light- yes, I read your other questions....
Sorry, you have no chance in a court of law getting your children if you are so irresponsible that you have to sleep around, especially when your wife is looking after two children.
2006-11-21 21:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try and be kind...she's no happier with her outward appearance than you are about looking at it. Just remember: you planted the seed that made the tree grow; don't forget what she had that drew you to her in the first place and if it was just her looks, you are now getting the karmic come-uppence to your shallow-azzed viewpoint!
2006-11-21 20:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will need to convince the Judge that you're afraid for your childs safty because you feel that in a hungerous trance she may eat your child. It's happened several times over the years where your wife has eaten household pets. I'm sure after seeing the disgusting blob of human flesh she has become he will side with you.
2006-11-21 20:46:41 · answer #11 · answered by Roy Munson 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋