why is my wife so lazy?

Question

my wife is a dear sweet woman but she is lazy how can I make her more active? she sleeps more than 7 hours every night and only gets up right at the last minute to get the kids ready for school
she refuses to cook what I like to eat and only shaves her legs when she goes out with her lesbian friends
my mother used to get up at 5am every morning and make everyone happy and she was happy too
my wife is three months pregnant but I think that is no excuse because my mother worked until she was full term
sometimes I want to hit her with a closed fist but im a good husband and I love her I just wish she wasnt so lazy

Answer 1

Hey my life mirrors yours and my wife is the same way except she sleeps 12 hours a day and the weekend god the weekends! maybe we should hit the clubs together so we can get replacements j/j

Answer 2

I will admit that I am a temporarily lazy military wife. I just became a military wife a few months ago and I know where I am going to go to school and get a part time job. The only problem right now is we only have one car and my husbands work stations is about a half an hour away from our housing. We are however saving up money for him to get a car so I can start work and school. I say good for you being able to start right away. I moved on to a base in cali from michigan and it has been rough and there are a lot of lazies I've seen who are perpously lazy, but there are also some like me who don't want to be stuck in the house or be lazy, but have to wait till we can afford another car so the laziness goes away. Hope you military life is going well :)

Answer 3

Well, I can sympathize with your annoyance...to a point. But let me ask you, what do you do? Aside from work? Do you ever help get the kids ready for school? Do you ever cook what she likes for dinner? If the answers are no, then I must tell you, you are too old fashioned. And maybe a little fixated with mom. Chances are your mom was a bit frustrated, or that your dad helped your mom out more than he let on.

Get back to the present. Quit trying to make your wife into your mother. In this day & age, both partners help out. People work their strengths, and work together to get past their weaknesses.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have control issues. You define lazy based on your perseptions and want your wife to do what you say and did not show any care for what she wants. After all it is her life too. lesbian friends? maybe she doesnt want to do anything for you because she resents you for being so controlling, you want to hit her but you don't????? Last time I checked a man should not get a blue ribbon for doing what is right. I think you should take a good long look at yourself and maybe if you where more supportive your wife would be more willing to do things for you.

Answer 5

It is perfectly normal for a woman to be fatigued in her first trimester. If she is only getting 7 hours of sleep a night, that is not enough - try to encourage her to nap so she gets 9 - 10 hours total. It is not laziness, it is just an overwhelming fatigue in many cases. She also should be eating a quality diet, if she is not nauseated.

When she gets further along in her pregnancy, her energy levels should improve quite a bit.

Please stop comparing your wife to your mother. That will get you nowhere.

Answer 6

she sounds fairly unmotivated but sometimes your arguements are kind of empty. everyone should have 8 hrs sleep. perhaps she should go to bed earlier. why does she stay up so late? maybe she is stressed about something. stress plays a HUGE factor in people that are unmotivated even though it seems like they don't do anything to be stressed their brains go at 1000 miles an hour.

you shouldn't compare her to your mom -- you should be concerned about her.

Answer 7

Maybe you should talk to your wife instead of asking us. It sounds to me that she may be suffering from depression. She may need something to do outside of the house to give her something to look forward to everyday. How would you function if everyday you woke up, took the kids to school, and were expected to just cook and clean the rest of the day. Maybe a part-time job while the kids are in school would help. It also sounds to me that you are a controlling husband. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, UNDER NO CONDITIONS, WOULD YOU EVER THINK OF PHYSICALLY HARMING THEM!!!

Answer 8

Are her friends really Lesbians or do you just not like them? Why do you constantly compare your wife to your mother? If you were doing that to me I would pack up your stuff and send you back home so mom could continue to make you happy & I wouldn't have to hear your BS!

Answer 9

1stly when u become preggers u du tend to feel lazy and tired! and secondly she needs to get a job maybe she's bored with her life and doesn see the point in duin anythin! GL

Answer 10

well, I can sympathize with your wife. recently I have gotten the lazy bone and let me tell you why.

my boyfriend and I have 2 kids, both too young for school. he works nights, I stay home with the kids. he sleeps all day because he works night while I get up with the kids, feed them, bathe them, dress them, entertain them, feed them again, prepare dinner, clean up after the kids, clean up after dinner, watch him relax on a full belly, then watch him go take a nap before he goes back to work...without him lifting a finger to help out.

ok, so, he has a paying job....I stay home...I don't get paid, I don't get appreciation, and I don't get a day off. a mother's work is never finished, and without the help of her significant other, it NEVER ever will be finished.

stop comparing her to your mother for one, because if that's what you were looking for in a wife, you should have just lived at home the rest of your life.

don't expect her to make what YOU like, maybe the kids are picky eaters or she just doesn't want to cook using YOUR moms recipe! cut her some slack dude!!

when you come home from work, tell her she looks nice and ask her if she needs help with dinner or chores. don't just kick off your shoes and tell her how rough your day was! when you start to pitch in, she'll get her motivation back! take her OUT to dinner once in a while and do nice things for her....bring her home a card just because...send her flowers while you are at work. if you want her to be a better homemaker, you have to be a better husband! stop comparing her to your mom, no woman likes that!!

it's not 1952 anymore dude...women aren't happy about doing never ending chores and taking care of the kids with out help. we want to get out there and live life outside of the home too. maybe she only shaves her legs when she goes out with her friends regardless of thier sexual orientation, because she feels like she can breathe when she is out with her friends and wants to look and feel good about herself.

shame one you!