My mom died six months ago and it's been hard but i'm hanging in there. how do u guys hang in there?
2006-11-21 19:54:08 · 16 answers · asked by ghetto fabolous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really feel for you. I found it helped me to still talk to my Mum at times as if she was still with me - I seemed to be able to feel her presence. Also I'm a keen gardener - she was too & without realising it I found I was planting things that she loved. someone gave me a rose bush as a memorial to her as well.
Talk with others who knew her and cared about her - remember the good times.
The worst times are around christmas and family times. Try to make sure you have someone close with you to help you through and follow the usual routines.
It takes time but you'll learn to deal with it. Don't listen to people who try to set boundaries on how long your grieving should take - everyone is different.
2006-11-21 20:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Maryrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've already lost both of my parents. I was too young to really grieve for my father, but my mothers' death a few years ago ripped me up... I ended up having to use tranquilizers (xanax) for a few months just so I could get through my work day without bursting into tears.
Eventually, I became able to remember the good things, the funny things, and even though I will always miss her - we were very close - I know that the best way I can honor her is to live a good life.
You never realize just how much you've come to depend on your mother being there to love you until she isnt anymore....
I'm sorry for the loss you're suffering....
2006-11-22 04:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry for you. How old are you? I think that would help a bit if you were older and at work rather than little. I lost my mother when I was 25 and she was 52. Of course you will never get over the loss, but its true, time does heal, and things will get better. She would not want you to be miserable, so buck up, and start smiling. She would like that.
2006-11-22 04:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard ...i lost mine ten years ago..and it seems to get harder everyday..You just try to keep busy and think of the things that remind you of her and try to think she is close by.Talk to her like she was there and keep her in your heart.I lost my mom ten years ago and my dad three years before that and my brother 25 years ago..He was 44 when he died and alot older than I ..But I have lost five uncles and four aunts and almost all the spouses ..well actually all of them too..So im really alone and it hurts..I am thankful for my wife and children but sometimes its just not the same..When i go to where I grew up its like it never existed and all traces of my youth are gone..it will be ok.. just hang in there..
2006-11-22 05:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I lost my dad when I was 5...which was....a long time ago...so, I don't think it applied.
I did however watch my wife die in my arms 2 years ago, and went through a long period of self hatred, and...picked up some bad habits that I used to hide behind to get me through rough patches..habits which in the long term caused more problems...
I still blame myself that she died and I lived, and am only just now starting to get my life back together....
Best thing I can say? Is...just try and deal with it..dont bottle up your feelings or it will drive you crazy..don't look for ways to hide from whats happening...Take care of yourself and treat yourself in a manner your mom would be proud of..and remember, even if shes gone in body, everything she taught you and told you..still exists in memory..and the memory of her will live with you forever..hold onto that..because that will be one of your most valuable possesions that nobody can ever take from you.
2006-11-22 03:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Shaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 11 years this past September and the pain of her passing has diminished to a certain extent. But, you never fully recover from the loss of a parent, much as you never recover from the loss of a child. You just learn to put one foot in front of the other and keep on pushing...eventually you find that you don't die so easy and that life has a cycle, though it seems so unfair sometimes. Keep your head up and find things that remind you of them that were pleasant and good, and they live on inside you.
2006-11-22 04:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I were very close. It devistated me when she passed. I got pregnant just a couple days after she passed. My kids kept me going along w/my husband but the pain didnt start to ease til 3 yrs passed. It never dies but eases up. Give yourself time and allow yourself to cry.
2006-11-22 04:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a parent. Time goes by, don't dwell on it. I'm assuming your mom loved you. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be sad all the time. We all grieve, but don't let grief take over. Make your life worth something more
2006-11-22 03:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the grace of God i have not lost my parents yet.
and i dont know how it feels like when you lose your loved once....
i dont want to give you wrong suggestion.
But try to keep your mom alive in your heart and smile. Try to develop the feeling that you are not alone in the crowd of million. and start looking forward in your life.
God bless you...
2006-11-22 04:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by viv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Dad 9 years ago and i stall miss him so must it hard but with God help you can make it
2006-11-22 04:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋