Unsure what to do when my 2 & 1/2 yr old throws a temper tantum in public?

Answer 1

try to work out what has caused tantrum- the reason for the tantrum will determine the action you take to diffuse it. could they be tired/hungry/thirsty/bored with shopping-always take a snack/drink & book wherever you go (this distraction has saved many a full blown tantrum for me),if they are tired a small thing can turn into a huge screamfest & leave no option but to take them somewhere to sleep.if it is over something they want but cant have a firm reinforcement of the reason why & explain that screaming/crying/throwing self on the floor is not going to get them what they want & DONT GIVE IN. if you have said no- dont turn around & give them what they want just to shut them up, this will teach that if they carry on long enough mum/dad will cave & encourage more tantrums.take a (very) deep breath & carry on, screaming child & all (it can be embarrasing but the alternative -giving in, will create a monster).anyone with kids will have nothing but empathy for you .

Answer 2

I think it depends on the context, but in general if your child is having a tantrum the best policy is usually to calmly pick him/her up and leave.

If you find yourself dealing with tantrums in the same situation repeatedly, then it's time to rethink what you are doing. There will be some ages & stages where your child just won't be able to cope with certain situations and you'll have to avoid them until he/she matures more. This too shall pass.

If it's a situation you can't avoid, you need to come up with ways to minimize the triggers that frustrate your child. For example, make sure your child is always well rested and fed before trying to run errands. Explain beforehand the behavior you expect and that you will leave if he/she has a tantrum. If the trigger for the tantrum is not getting what he/she wants, let your child know beforehand whether today is a "buying day" or just a "looking day" so he/she knows whether to expect you to buy a treat. Reward positive behavior and expect mistakes. Whatever you do, do *not* give in. Trust me, all of us parents would rather see your child have a meltdown in the candy aisle because you say no than to see your child have a meltdown in the candy aisle because you say no and then have you give in after 5 minutes of ranting! We've all been there and even though you may run into a few people who will be jerks, we all know there are times when little ones just don't know how to cope with this big, crazy world. Hang in there and stay calm!

Answer 3

Very, very simple. Got a 3 yrd old, done that.

SIMPLE PROCEDURE:
1 - Before you go out, or as you strap them into the car, look them in the eyes and say clearly, "If you throw a tantrum, I will strap you straight back into this car and we will stay home all the rest of the day."
2 - Warn them ONCE more as you enter shopping centre / cafe / friends' house.
3 - If they start, instantly drop everything you are doing and replace them in the car. Go straight home. Stay there for the rest of the day.

POINTS TO REMEMBER:
- You must be prepared to leave at once, no matter what. If that means leaving a milkshake or coffee, leave it; if it means leaving a trolley full of food, leave it, you can shop tomorrow too; you have to leave at once, without discussion, without argument.
- Doing this, you are controlling the situation, not your child.
- I had to do this twice. Since then my son has never behaved badly in public. Never.
- If you think it won't work, I can assure you, it does.
- It saves embarrassment, stress, and time.

Good luck!

Answer 4

It sounds like you're already doing the right element, you're giving her an afternoon out, that's what maximum specialists advise. because you're a nanny and little doubt you're going to go back across a rash of undesirable behaviors in each of the youngsters you manage, i imagine you should make investments interior the Nanny 911 e book. i have flipped through it and it has an excellent type of magnificent recommendations for all sorts of themes. that's tricky to discipline a baby who's mom and father are not being in step with what you attempt to do. Is there a fashion that you'll be able to sit down her mom and father down and tell them you have to be all on a similar web page because what's occurring now should be no longer operating? i ought to also tell them that her habit's likely to get a heck of lots worse once that new infant comes alongside in case you do not nip this interior the bud now.

Answer 5

I read something once that made sense to me. See what you think.

The parent who wrote the article was frustrated with the children's behavior, such as tantrums. The parents felt like the typical system of discipline wasn't working. They decided, instead, to approach discipline as the natural consequences of their children's actions. So when the children threw tantrums, for example, the parents measured how much of their time the children wasted during the tantrum, and then had their children do chores for the parents for that amount of time. For example, if you throw a tantrum for 30 minutes, you wash walls for 30 minutes, because you are paying back the amount of mom's/dad's time you wasted.

I'm not completely sure I like the idea of making housework seem like a punishment, but I like the idea of choosing natural consequences for the children's actions. In the case of your child, for instance, maybe you could make the child sit in time out for the amount of time the tantrum lasted after the tantrum was over. Also, rewarding the child for good behavior is important.

Many very young children simply do not know how to express themselves very well with words. Maybe just talking to your child and encouraging him/her to use words might make things less frustrating for both you and your child.

Answer 6

try a conditional method with bribe. bribing is not always good for children as the most probably will get used to rewards. this is how it works: if the child starts acting up say something like"ok, if you are going to cry all day long then we wont be able to watch disney because disney is for big girls/boys...not for babies". or "if you cry mommy/daddy will be very sad and cry too" do this in a way that you kneel/squat going down to their level and look them in they eye. do not instantly give in. the kid wants to communicate something u just have to find a way to break it down. lastly "if you behave/don't cry mommy/daddy will buy some ice cream (or whatever simple thing that will put a smile on your childs face that isn't extravagant and too rewarding)" wave a puppet or stuffed toy and say "look at mr.bunny (or something) hes sad now..." good luck

Answer 7

I have 2 1/2 year old now. This happen during our holiday(last year) in Johannesburg..

It all depends on how have you been disciplining her all these while.

we do not use the cane but more of reasoning out/ explaining our action/s... likes and dislikes of my "little monster".

what we did was continue with our thing and ignore her.
(its embarrassing but do what you have to do do)

we continued walking for some distance and waited for her.

once she have calm down, we talked to her, reasoned with her that her action was unacceptable, reminded her that we will leave her alone again,if she repeats.

Then, alas... till now.. she have Never done it again..

Gd luck..

Answer 8

walk away.
i had a stepdaughter who tried that crap (laying down with arms and legs flying and screaming at the top of her lungs) at 12 years old. i walked out of the store. then she couldn't find me to embarrass me. it took almost an hour before she knew i was gone. on the way out of the store a woman said under her breath to me ' i don't blame you. i'd leave her silly arss there too'. that made me feel better.
unless you want to do this at 12, start at 2.

Answer 9

I don't know your child, but when mine acted up when we were at a store, I would lean in close and say quietly " Do you want the store clerk to come over here and tell you 'NO?' " They definitely did not want some stranger telling them to behave.

Answer 10

this happens to me all th etime with my boy 2 also,i find that i just lay him on the path head down and let him go after five minutes he gets up grabs his blanket and starts to walk the less attention you give him when he does his tantrum the less he will do it and less time to each time,